A few years ago, on the Fourth of July, I was the only straight man at a barbecue with lots of members of the bear community and the men who like them (Don't ask me how I got invited). By the end of the night, I had a bunch of phone numbers (even after I explained that I'm hetero), and got flirted with a lot. This happens to me less frequently in a mixed party. I'm sure part of it is that women can often be less demonstrative than men, that the men at the party felt very safe to act on their impulses, and that being a big, round, hairy bear daddy does not fit society's GQ or Cosmo standard for male beauty, which heterosexual women are more likely to subscribe to than men.
So: I know that there are there women who find big, round-bellied, hairy bear men sexy, and that you browse JDate. It's not like I'm going to shave off my facial hair, and get a body wax anytime soon. Who I am is vibrant, sexy, and hilariously funny. I'm not going to wish I could be something I'm not, so I'm taking the approach that who I am is sexy to some women, and then go meet those women. I know that there is a bear fetish among men, but there's also a bear fetish among women who date men, and that's who I'm looking for. After all, the term BBW (with the second B often having ambiguous meaning) has become common parlance here on JDate, so why not straight bears as well?