I have been separated since2007 after a 20 year marriage which ended in a divorce in 2010. I can't say that I was happy that it happened that way but I'm less unhappy because of it. I would say that i am a realist, but when I'm too close and involved in a situation I don't think I see the reality clearly enough to back up that claim. I think you could describe me as calm and thoughtful, a big picture person who doesn't sweat the small stuff. I have four great kids, who I learn from all the time.