Let's cut to the chase, shall we? You're looking for, simply put, a nice guy. He will talk with you, respect you, be kind, be able to cook, enjoy the same movies, share the same politics, feel the same about life and religion, fit in well with your family and friends and like children and dogs. He will do the things that you like to do and do things that you like even if he doesn't just because it's you. He will take you seriously. He will be funny. He won't snore. You will look good on his arm. He will be the lover you've always wanted. He will know that relationships are not all fun and games; hard work is required. You know - a nice guy. What he won't do is "play" you. He won't belittle you. He won't be cheap [frugal maybe, but not cheap] or a bad dresser. He'll leave the seat down. He won't drink too much. He won't embarrass you or take you for granted. There's much more than that, but you get the idea. I swear I'm not an egomaniac. I just get that part of life. And I'm far from perfect. I can be annoying. Sometimes I have a short fuse. Sometimes I don't pay attention. Sometimes I drive too fast. I will put my daughter's needs ahead of yours, at least until she can "swim" by herself. I may watch nerdy t.v. and play video games. I may just want to be by myself for a while sometimes. I will probably want to hang out with my friends or daughter without you, bu not often; I would hope you were independent and secure enough to do the same.