Being an optimist I'm hopeful that my references to integrity will not throw everybody off. I have been a subscriber for some years and have met some truly outstanding people..As time passes one cannot but notice a certain redundancy and repetitiveness in most of the posts which seem a) self congratulatory, and b) about trying to get something for nothing which the poster lacks.For those seeking a compensatory relationship the bar of expectation seems set somewhat too high.It seems that most posters are scarcely interested in who they are meeting but primarily what they hope to get. Some offer kindness, congeniality friendship even passion, but that is truly rare. it is the marketing aspect of self that rises to the top in most cases.There is nothing perverse about any of this since the posters are simply espousing the dominant morality of time and place.In that respect there is absolutely no difference between a Jewish and a non-Jewish dating site in my experience except that jdaters are more bourgeois and upscale, but not necessarily more thoughtful or clued in, ( including myself), and non-Jewish sites are more into expressing desires.I am beginning to surrender to the futility of the whole enterprise which seems really about enticing others to respond to the mirror image of oneself.I am holding out for the exceptions and still hoping with very little evidentiary basis for the hope.Perhaps prospective partners will no longer introduce themselves and then disappear without notice.Nobody wants to be challenged even when there is an obvious lack of authenticity in the self descriptions.
I am not by temperament critical or disparaging.It's just that I would appreciate a little honesty and warmth for a change.
People who meet me find me congenial and are want to persevere through time in meeting.Location is always a problem.It's difficult to sustain a relationship at a distance.
I don't lack resources but I believe in reciprocity. I don't consider myself to be a use object.I'm not targeting anybody.
Above all I am seeking a warm, sympathetic,supporti ve and intelligent partner to share
the simple pleasures of life in an urban environment.I value intimacy and closeness as aspects of relationship.I need to hear the authentic voice of a kind , intelligent and sensitive woman who cherishes relationships.We need to make the most of the time we have, so no prevarication , no delay,and above all no calculation. Let's live our lives to the full in an era of late capitalism.