How to describe oneself is, of course, the first thing most of us consider in preparing this narrative. As I’ve thought about that, however, I realize now that who I am is something more dependent on how you perceive me and how I respond to you than what I believe I am.
I do think, however, that I can honestly tell you, because others have told me, that I am kind, honest, intelligent, principled, self-effacing, introspective, sensitive, affectionate and romantic. Still, these are qualities, for you finally to judge. Beyond this brief description, perhaps the best thing to do here is to tell you about the partner whom my life’s experiences have brought the lonely hunting of my heart (apologies to Carson McCullers) to seek. This will not only help you decide whether to write to me after you have read this profile or whether to respond to my message to you but should also tell you something more about who I am.
She is kind and emotionally mature. Feelings and emotions freely animate and energize her, but they do not rule her. She is sensitive and responsive to my needs and comfortable in letting me know hers. She is intelligent and educated, curious and inquisitive. She has her own accomplishments, career or calling, and interests. She is physically very active, taking good care of herself, for herself and for her partner. She is playful, romantic and affectionate, one for whom intimacy includes long, often silent but connected moments, of gentle touching, kissing and caressing. Her mind sometimes wanders because of me, and she often thinks of me when her mind simply wanders. We are each other’s priority, but not required to be each other’s obsession. She is emotionally available and certain enough, after her own life experiences, to be able and ready to commit exclusively to a relationship, in order to see if it brings for each of us the enduring companionship we both seek.
If this is you, please let me hear from you, and if I write you, I hope that you are her and you let me know.