I'm a dedicated Dad of three wonderful children (6 to 13), an attentive son of aging Holocaust-survivor parents, a mindful brother. I love family.
My kids are with me 50% of the time and boy do I miss them the other half.
I'm a curious lover of ideas, a sentimental fool. I believe in simplicity and good laughs.
I'm hoping to meet a warm and thoughtful woman, full of ideas, friends, interests and imagination. I'm looking forward to becoming part of her life as much as she becoming part of mine.
Jewish identity and religion is powerful for me -- even though I'm a hopeless agnostic. I love ritual and connection to generations past and future ("L'dor va Dor"). I get farklempt watching my kids daven (they go to a Jewish day school). I'm not patient enough to daven a lot (nor does it do much for me) but I enjoy monthly visits to shul -- after a half-hour you'll find me schmoozing in the hallway.
The Holocaust plays an outsized role in my worldview and sense of self. I used to not go five minutes without thinking about it. Thankfully, the divorce cured that.
I love children and being a Dad. Last year I was Class Parent in two classes, helped run the school lunch program, planned "Moving Up" celebrations for my son's fifth grade (and made two sentimental videos shown at the ceremony), coached my daughter's basketball team and ran the "Generations" program bringing Jewish seniors to our elementary school.
When my kindergartener lines up in the morning on the school blacktop, I squat down to chat with him and his classmates -- not with other parents. At kid birthday parties I participate in the activities whenever invited. I recently played paintball with some other parents and my daughter's classmates--pure joy!
But I don't want to give the impression it's easy. I find feeding, scheduling, transporting and raising three very different children, plus negotiating with my ex about their activities and academics, challenging and exhausting. Overcoming obstacles is part of my daily life. Projects outside of parenthood are too often neglected. Yet I strive to find opportunity in every challenge, to be ever-mindful that parenting is a privilege and a blessing, and to see the journey as the reward.
For those who know Myers-Briggs: I'm an ENFP, with a strong N / P and a weak-to-mid E / F.