I'm a dedicated Dad of three wonderful children (7 to 14), an attentive son of aging Holocaust-survivor parents, a mindful brother. I love family.
My kids spend half their lives with me, bringing many challenges and much joy.
I'm a curious lover of ideas, a sentimental fool. My motto is simplicity, yet the reality is invariably complex.
I hope to meet a warm, thoughtful woman, full of ideas, friends, interests and imagination. Importantly, I want to meet someone who, if everything between us was like magic, would be thrilled at the prospect of becoming a stepmother to my interesting kids. I'd enjoy stepchildren as well (though having children isn't a necessity).
Jewish identity and religion is powerful for me, though I'm hopelessly agnostic. I love ritual and connection to generations past and future ("L'dor va Dor"). I get farklempt watching my kids (who attended Jewish Day School for years) become Bar and Bat Mitzvah. Prayer sadly does little for me, yet I enjoy monthly visits to shul (after a half-hour you'll find me schmoozing in the hallway), and making Friday night, at least, Shabbos.
The Holocaust plays an outsized role in my worldview and sense of self. For decades I wouldn't go an hour without thinking about it. Thankfully, the divorce cured that.
I'm involved in each of my children's lives, whether being "Class Parent," helping run the school lunch program, organizing movie nights and sleepovers, knowing every one of my children's friends and their parents, or coaching their basketball and ultimate frisbee teams. When my first grader lines up in the morning on the school blacktop, I squat down to chat with him and his classmates -- not with other parents. At kid birthday parties I participate in any activity in which parents are welcome. I recently played paintball with some other parents and my daughter's classmates--pure joy!
Much is mundane and it's not easy. I cook for, clean up after, tutor, play with and raise three very different children. Overcoming obstacles is part of my daily life and can be exhausting. Projects outside of parenthood are too often neglected. But fatherhood is truly the most rewarding undertaking I've ever attempted. The journey is the reward.
Myers-Briggs fans: I'm an ENFP, with a strong N / P and a weak-to-mid E / F.