*It's official - I begin this fall as a PhD Candidate at Indiana University in Bloomington. Now, to get ready to move and start all all over meeting people in a place where I know no one...*
There is an ancient Chinese philosophy that each and every one of us in this life are objects in motion, careening, sometimes wildly, into each other and into whatever else we get ourselves into, until we find our "center", something that grounds us, contains us, and yet allows us to flourish since all of our energy is now focused instead of flying wildly in all directions. People can be centers for other people, as can places, objects, etc. It all depends on the person.
I've been doing a lot of introspection lately, and I've come to realize that the last long term relationship I was in, despite it being toxic for me on many levels, helped ground me somewhat, and in the 4+ years since becoming single again, I've had more and more difficulty finding that kind of focus.
I am an orbiting stone, a scientist, a historian, a graduate student, and a teacher. I am deeply spiritual, fierce in my love and protection of my friends and family, and strong in my convictions, even though my political interests are not even really focused on this continent. I am a bit of a nerd, a gamer, a lover of many genres of music, and someone who enjoys literature and finds distaste in the butchery of language (I will "LOL" but only if I'm texting or multitasking, however...). My philosophy of life and all facets of it are to keep humor and joy as a central part - if you're not enjoying yourself, what's the point? I am 6'7, and due to a long and unfortunate string of knee issues reaching back over 10 years, a "big guy" (though my height helps me carry it rather well, I think...), and I am searching for my Center.
I am hoping to find someone who can appreciate me for who I am, but who can inspire and drive me to better myself, someone who I can inspire as well, so we can both grow stronger together, and as individuals. I am hoping to find someone who can accept affection, who appreciates that closeness can be as powerful a drug as anything in this world. I am hoping to find someone who is secure enough in themselves that they are still a whole person during time alone, but who will revel in time spent together.