I was swiping left and right on tinder the other day and I thought to myself, gosh I've been dating long enough so that I might see someone on these dating sites that I dated in my twenties and thirties, who got married then divorced and is now back to dating. On the face of it that might sound sad. But I don't see it that way. I see it as a second chance to get things right. Maybe she can go out with me again for a bit, then meet the next man of her dreams and marry him! And maybe this time it will last. Because I don't think I'll go out with her again when we are in our sixties. As George Bush said, fool me once…and then he messed the whole thing up.
Anyway, I think the online dating scene has reached a maturity of sorts, so that it's not so much what I say anymore, as much as the fact I can put a sentence together and I seem normal. Long gone are the days of working hard and playing hard, of looking as good in a pair of jeans as a little black dress (not me, you! perv…), of being just as happy with an evening out on the town as making it a blockbuster night (speaking of, whatever happened to blockbuster? Are we all just making it a Netflix night? out in the country do they make it RedBox nights? and does anyone go to the movies anymore?)
We are all floating in the ether, trying to make connections so that our lives become more meaningful and happy (although, from what I understand, god forbid those connections be casual that's a big no-no). I have to go off the reservation here and say that I'm ok being single. I'm in no big rush to couple off just for the sake of coupling off. I think the mistake a lot of people make is that they're afraid to be alone so they compromise. I'm not gonna. Find me and we'll look for the undercurrent of humor that runs through everyday life. We'll either take things slow or we won't, but we'll have fun doing it.
side note: my pictures are all me from the last few months. I've gotten some questions about why I'm not smiling or showing teeth. The simple answer is that I don't have my photo taken often, so most of these are selfies, and I would feel really dumb smiling like a buffoon at nothing in particular just so I can show you I have straight white teeth. But meet me in person and be funny and charming and you'll see them lots.