ABOUT ME While unconditional love is wonderful and very special (ie parent to child), I feel that a relationship as a couple IS conditional. I feel that enjoying the pleasures and gratification of an ongoing relationship takes alot of work- not always equal effort, but always mutual effort. I have made alot of mistakes over time. I will continue to make mistakes. A long time ago, while playing tennis in high school and facing a skilled opponent, I said to myself "If I don't try, I can't fail". I was wrong. Not to try IS failing. While sometimes I feel afraid to risk, I feel more fear in NOT risking,fear in living a compromised life—in feelings, in relationships. I've learned alot about what I don't want in a relationship .and in so doing, have learned alot about what I do want in a healthy relationship.