I just returned from a great trip to Spain - Madrid, Sevilla and Barcelona - warm people, great food, vino, architecture. Go to Barcelona, experience the genius of Antoni Gaudi's work, for which I have no words.
I took the Polar Bear Plunge on New Year's Day last year on the North Fork, something I always have wanted to do - an invigorating way to start 2013. Maybe you'll join me and my friends next year, as we're going to make it an annual tradition?
"Always remember that you are free in every moment to set the compass of your heart to your highest intentions. In fact, the two things that you are always free to do - despite your circumstances - are to be present and to be willing to love."
I'm at the best point in my adult life. I want to continue to learn new things, expand into new experiences, do yoga, go to far-off places, engage with people in different cultures, explore archaelogical sites. I'm at a place of connecting, exploring, expanding, finding common ground. Let's learn to dance salsa, merengue, swing, fly around the dance floor, while wearing a fedora, eat weird stuff in remote villages, far away from the 2 or 3 train. I love languages, cleverness, honesty, connection, Thai massage, potato latkes, ethnicity, in food, garb, music, seeing people on the streets of the city wearing beautiful, flowing, colorful clothes from their cultures. It's one of the things that makes NY such a great place.
By the way, I completely understand and have learned to accept that many women's immediate reaction will be questions such as "56, never been married, no kids, what's up with that?", and then jump to a conclusion about fear of commitment, which simply is not true. It's a fair question, but I ask you not to judge or exclude me based on mere pieces of data on a screen - although that is what we do on these sites. I put in "not sure" about kids, but the truth is that I'd love to be a Dad, yet am accepting that it might not happen.
I still get excited when I have airline tickets in hand to travel out of the country with the woman I love. I eagerly look forward to feeling that way again -- to sharing, exploring, growing, traveling, expanding, being silly with a wonderful woman, whose voice I love to hear, and whom I find compelling. In 2012, I took my first trip to Israel since I was a teenager -- a wonderful, 2.5-week spontaneous, solo adventure, connecting to the country, the people, the warmth, visiting archaeological sites -- and even took two Bikram yoga classes in Hebrew.
I am a combo of realistic and idealistic, warm, boyish, playful, realistic, accomplished and mature, yet nowhere near jaded. An old Sufi tradition advises us to speak only after our words have managed to pass through four gates. At the first gate, we ask ourselves "Are these words true?" If so, we let them pass on if not, back they go. At the second gate we ask ourselves "Are they necessary?" At the third gate we ask "Are they beneficial?" and at the fourth gate, we ask "Are they kind?" If the answer to any of these is no, then what you are about to say should be left unsaid. Peace.