I am a serious academic and have a strong domestic side. I am strong-willed and so happy to follow your lead. I am extremely sweet-tempered and fiery. "Do I contradict myself? Very well, then, I contradict myself. I am large. I contain multitudes."
My typical state is optimistic, happy, adaptable, and non-argumentative. I am more lover than fighter, more cuddler than yeller, more thousand-kisses-deli verer than nagger. Happy to relocate, happy to (and love to) work through problems instead of catastrophizing them, happy to include your kids (if you have them) in my life, happy to plan a new life route with you, happy to adapt to whatever the challenge du jour might be. Happy to figure it all out.
As an adolescent, I was an idealist and wanted to be a concert pianist and, later, a Shakespeare scholar (plans that didn't sit so well with my immigrant parents!). Although I still have an idealistic side, it's tempered by a dose of pragmatism and risk aversion. These days, I am a tenured professor and enjoy my intellectual pursuits as well as personal ones.
The things I care about most: my family, reading classic literature, Judaism/Israel, and connecting with close friends. I am fond of cooking, baking, film, hosting dinner parties, reading, thinking, connecting, and learning new things. I love being in the presence of a man who knows how to share a good laugh, split a bottle of red (a favorite Talmudic quote: "The wine goes in, and the secrets come out" - ain't that the truth!), deliver warm hugs/kisses, and otherwise enjoy life by my side. I am NOT an ardent (or even not-so-ardent) feminist. Please feel free to be the man, while knowing that you don't always have to be strong. Weakness and vulnerability are human, and so they are good.
I am very involved in Jewish life: I enjoy Shabbat (dinners, synagogue, community, etc.), keep kosher, and might qualify as a poster child for pro-Israel sentiment. You don't have to match me perfectly on these things, but ideally you are actively engaged in Jewish life in some way, and/or you are open to sharing that with your partner. It's a core part of who I am, so this one is probably not so negotiable.
A couple of things that I've learned about myself: Real intimacy, for me, happens bit by bit…heartbeat by heartbeat...disclosu re by disclosure...small kindness by small kindness, until all of a sudden I know it's there and can revel in its sweetness. I don't love often, but when I love, I love hard. Also, although I have always been (and will always be!) very attracted to thinkers/intellectua ls who can (at least sometimes) outsmart and outargue me, after years of dating thinkers, I've learned that I have a particular soft spot for the feelers out there. It's okay to be all business sometimes, but if you can't open up and go deep, share a long hug, and quietly connect with genuine feeling and heart, then we may not be quite right for one another but I still wish you well.