I am a serious academic and have a strong domestic side. I am strong-willed and so happy to follow your lead. I am extremely sweet-tempered and fiery. "Do I contradict myself? Very well, then, I contradict myself. I am large. I contain multitudes."
The things I care about most: my family, reading classic literature, Judaism/Israel, and connecting with close friends. As an adolescent, I was an idealist and wanted to be a concert pianist (a plan that didn't sit well with my immigrant parents) and, later, a Shakespeare scholar (also wisely nixed early on by the parental units). Although I still have an idealistic side, it's tempered by a dose of pragmatism and risk aversion. These days, I am a (recently) tenured professor and am happy to have job security in a field I love so that I can simultaneously pursue other life passions.
I love connecting with people who have excellent verbal skills (it's a "thing" of mine...what can I say). When I love someone, I can't seem to find enough ways to be affectionate and share with him the core of my soul. I love to write both technical papers and long, soft, sweet, hand-written letters to the people I love. I prefer dating men who have a strong Jewish identity and who support Israel with as much passion as I do. I am very fond of cooking, baking, film, hosting dinner parties, reading, thinking, connecting, and being in the presence of a man who knows that the art of chivalry is a delicious talent. I am NOT an ardent (or even not-so-ardent) feminist. Please feel free to be the man.
A couple of things that I've learned about myself: Real intimacy, for me, happens bit by bit...heartbeat by heartbeat...disclosu re by disclosure...small kindness by small kindness, until all of a sudden I know it's there and can revel in its sweetness. Also, although I have always been (and will always be!) very attracted to thinkers/intellectua ls who can (at least sometimes) outsmart and outargue me, to my own pleasant surprise, after years of dating thinkers, I've learned that I have a particular soft spot for the feelers out there. It's okay to be all business sometimes, but if you can't open up and go deep, share a long hug, and quietly connect with real feeling and heart, then we may not be quite right for one another but I still wish you well.