My ideal relationship:   

Where time and hard work results in me being the best I can be and that I can do that for my partner. Where we live lives of interest and meaning. Where our natures complement each other, our nurtured selves don't aggravate and our neuroses don't overwhelm. Where I can feel appreciated, respected and cared for. As love waxes and wanes over time that we still find reasons to be together and to continue to work and seek the love that began it all.

My past relationships:   

For good sex over time it's what happens outside of bed that counts. It's how we treat each other in the functions of daily life with its successes and failures as well as how we look at and work toward the future. It's how we work together and no one of us carrying the relationship burden alone. It's being flexible, creating appropriate boundaries, and knowing the difference between true kindness and crumbs of it.

I am looking for a:   

I'd like to meet someone who: is generally happy with life and the life he's created for himself, is a problem solver and keeps whining to a minimum, doesn't focus on work alone and has time for a relationship, has magnetism of character and sexuality, is not shy and likes parties and public events, doesn't act out in public (or private, for that matter,) has a nice speaking voice, is financially responsible and lives below his means, is interested in the arts

My perfect first date:   

I like a little merlot.

My Ideal Match   

• Age Range: 39 to 52
• Relationship Status: Single, Divorced, Widowed
• Religious Background: Reform, Conservative, Traditional, Reconstructionist, Another Stream of Judaism, Culturally Jewish but not practicing
• Education Level: High School, Some College, Associate's Degree, Bachelor's Degree, Master's Degree, JD/Ph.D/Postdoctoral
• Drinking Habits Never, Socially, Occasionally
• Smoking Habits: Non-Smoker