I’m just not that interested – so how do I say goodbye?

by jpompey under Online Dating,Single Life

If there’s anything I’ve learned during my years of online dating, there are more than enough crazies out there.  Honestly, I don’t even know where some of these people come from; it’s like I’m dreaming sometimes.  Are you really going to show up as a person that is a COMPLETELY different person than your picture and think I won’t get angry?  I mean, don’t get me wrong, I love women of all shapes, colors, and sizes.  But if you’re a 5’2, 110 lb Oriental women in your pictures, and show up as a 5’9 white Russian lady that’s 240 lbs., it’s not exactly a sign that you are entirely in touch with reality.  In fact, I may just run and not turn back.

With dates like these, it’s pretty easy to walk away at the end of the date without a second thought.  A simple, ‘it was nice meeting you,’say goodbye, and most likely head straight to that cell phone with your, “you won’t believe the date I just had (insert crazy story)” call.

But what happens when you meet someone who is nice, says all the right things, has plenty to offer, but you are just not that interested in?  You’re about to say goodnight and could just see it in their eyes; she’s hoping you will say you are going to call, that you want to meet up again, or you had a great time.  Is there any way to say goodbye without making the person feel bad?

There have definitely been a few times in my life where I was out with the nicest person ever, and felt so terrible at the end because they just weren’t a match.  Instead of being a man, I’d blurt out, “I’ll give you a call” like diarrhea of the mouth.  But what else do you say?  “See ya later!”  “I don’t think we are right for each other!”  “I didn’t have such a great time.”

Just saying goodbye feels so awkward.

Most people who look for help with online dating never think about problems like these.  But I pose the question to you all out there:  How do you end a date when you are just not that interested?

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