Power Silences

by JeremySpoke under Date Night

I assume that everybody experiences a certain degree of anxiety before a date.  That is, unless they are models who are dead inside.  If you fall under the first category, it is difficult to overcome.  People tell you to not think about it, but that’s all you think about it.  This is why I propose that I have nothing to propose.  I really don’t know what to do here.  You don’t want to be nervous for three days.

Here is one suggestion: Cancel the date two nights before it occurs.  The next day, ask if you can un-cancel it. This may make the date feel like he/she has a second chance with you.  This is leverage in your favor.  Now you are in charge, and can dictate the date based on the premise that your date is not in control of you, when in reality, he/she probably is.  Now that you have falsely convinced yourself that you are in control, your counterfeit confidence can be used in your favor.  Silences in between conversations are no longer ‘awkward pauses.’ They are now ‘power silences.’  Don’t even think about what to talk about next.  Let your date do this.  Therefore, not only will you not feel awkward, but you will let your date talk, letting him/her speak his/her mind.

At the end of the date, don’t go in for a kiss.  Don’t even try to hug.  Simply say “goodbye” and see what happens. If he/she wants to kiss you, he/she will. If not, there will probably not be another date, and you don’t have to worry about calling your date back.  Power silences are the only way to excellence.