JDatin’ on the Down Low

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

About six years ago I was perusing my JDate matches at work and saw a familiar face. It belonged to the guy sitting in an office down the hall. Awkward! Besides the fact that I didn’t know he was Jewish or even single, do I let him know that I know he’s on JDate and, in fact, is one of my matches? As it happened I didn’t have to do anything. We started talking organically and although I already knew more about him from his JDate profile, I didn’t let on. But because I knew certain things about him — like the fact that he was Jewish, single and willing to be on JDate — I saw him differently. When he asked me out I happily accepted and only on our second date did I let him in on my secret. Of course, it didn’t work out for us, but for a time our relationship was all credit to JDate even though we didn’t technically meet there. JDate is a great way to do a background check on someone you meet elsewhere. Yeah, it can be considered cheating, but it also can give you some insight as to their personality and your commonalities and that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Just be careful during conversation that you don’t let on to your sneaky ways.