Gossip Girls (and Guys)

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

Although us ladies are known for our gossiping ways, guys are guilty of it, too. Even so, it’s probably a good idea to keep the gossip for girls’ night out and not for your dates. Your date is not to be confused for one of your girlfriends. Not only will you bore your man to tears, but men tend to view gossip as petty, jealous and negative. These are not traits you want anybody to think of when they think of you, especially not your date. And it doesn’t matter if you’re gossiping about someone you know or about a celebrity, it’s not attractive.

The Torah says that only concern for someone’s wellbeing is an acceptable reason to gossip. Your date hearing you genuinely worry about a friend’s health or financial problems will only confirm to him how caring a person you are. Biting your (evil) tongue can go a long way. Not only will your date appreciate it, but your mindset may change and cause you to start looking at the world in a more positive light.

Nobody is perfect and nobody should expect you to be perfect. But cutting down on bad habits such as gossiping can lead you to becoming a better, more thoughtful, more appreciative and more positive person. And that’s someone that will be seen as more attractive in other’s eyes.