Archive for August, 2013

Love at First JDate: When to be Facebook Friends

by JenG under Relationships

After reading someone’s online dating profile and feeling enough of a burst of interest to meet them in person, you may find yourself on the steady track of getting to know them and seeing them weekly. But when is it time to finally connect with them, or easier said, be their Facebook friend, perhaps follow them on Twitter and begin to press the “heart” button on their Instagram photos?

Do: Wait to meet the person in real life before connecting with them across all or any social media platforms. If you’re able to figure out their first and last name before meeting them or after the first date, it’s fine to go ahead and innocently explore their profiles but don’t add them.

Don’t: Add that person on Facebook in the middle of your first date or before you have actually been out with them. If they ask you, before meeting you, to be your Facebook friend, consider going against that. It’s never a good idea to have someone look through years of your online information and photos before meeting you. Let the majority of their first impression of you be made in person, if possible.

Read more of Jen Glantz: www.thethingsilearnedfrom.com


Q & A — My Past Relationships

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

How do you answer JDate’s questions without sounding repetitive, cheesy, fake or boring? Let me help you craft personal and enticing answers to both the basic and intimate questions.

 ”My Past Relationships”
No need to get into details here about how your heart was shattered or how you got dumped via text or why you broke up with your last beau. This area is more about what you learned — as in, why it ended from a philosophical perspective not how it ended from an emotional perspective. Here are some ideas:
-taught me how to more effectively communicate
-reinforced my desire to marry Jewish
-showed me that laughing every day is a priority
-helped me discover that I had some growing to do
-allowed me to figure out what I did and didn’t want in a partner
Follow this lead rather than writing “ended when I caught him sexting” or “imploded when she began nagging me about my friends.” Leave your baggage at home and concentrate on what you want in the future rather than what you left in the past.
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Q & A — The Coolest Places I’ve Visited

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

How do you answer JDate’s questions without sounding repetitive, cheesy, fake or boring? Let me help you craft personal and enticing answers to both the basic and intimate questions.

“The Coolest Places I’ve Visited”

No need to be redundant and repeat any places you’ve already mentioned in other sections (if you’re from Israel, don’t list Israel here but perhaps be more specific about a favorite beach or city). If you love to travel and said so in “About Me” then this would be where you prove that by listing a few cool places you’ve visited. If you’ve never been outside North America but have done some pretty cool things then list those (snowboarding in New Mexico, 4×4 through the Mojave Desert, airboating in the Florida swamplands). If you’ve been to random, unknown countries then list those but if you’ve only traveled to the more popular tourist sites (Italy, or Greece for instance) then again, be more specific about cities or experiences.


Q & A — The Things I Could Never Live Without

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

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“The Things I Could Never Live Without”

Family and friends ought to be the first answer, then you can have fun with this question. It can be in list form with words separated by commas. Don’t take this question too seriously, unless of course you are a serious person and want to attract other like-minded people. Here are some cute ideas I’ve read and thought of:

-my iPhone (or whichever smart phone you have)

-a glass of Chianti/Bourbon/Local Draft

-sunshine/my snowboard

-a tempur pedic pillow/bubble baths

-ESPN/The Daily Show 


Hollywood Yenta Roundup: Lea Michele, Simon Cowell, Howard Stern & Chelsea Handler…

by JDateAdministrator under Entertainment,Judaism,News

1. Lea Michele’s Teary Tribute to Cory Monteith

Still mourning the loss of boyfriend Cory Monteith, Glee star Lea Michele dedicated her Choice TV Actress-Comedy prize at the Teen Choice Awards to the late actor on Sunday night. Michele, whose father is Jewish, has avoided interviews over the last few weeks, making this acceptance speech her first televised appearance since Monteith’s death last July.

“I wanted to dedicate this award to Cory,” Michele said while fighting back tears. “For all of you out there who loved and admired Cory as much as I did, I promise that, with your love, we’re going to get through this together.”

“He was very special to me, and also to the world, and we were very lucky to witness his incredible talent, his handsome smile, and his beautiful, beautiful heart,” she continued. “So whether you knew him personally or just as Finn Hudson, Cory reached out and he became a part of all of our hearts — and that’s where he’ll stay forever, so thank you guys so much.” You can watch her full acceptance speech here.

 

2. Cowell & Stern Are Both Raking It In

What do Simon Cowell and Howard Stern have in common besides their Jewish heritage? The two men are tied as the highest paid TV personalities in America according to Forbes Magazine.

As a record label boss and TV talent show mogul, Simon Cowell reportedly made $95 million between June of 2012 and June of 2013. That figure pushed him to the top of Forbes’ list, but it wasn’t enough to push past shock-jock Howard Stern who pulled in the same outrageously large sum. Interestingly, Stern also works on Cowell’s popular series America’s Got Talent. Looks like these two have talent… for making money, that is!

Other TV personalities who made the list include conservative talk show host Glenn Beck with $90 million, Oprah Winfrey with $77 million, and Dr. Phil with $72 million.

 

3. Chelsea Handler Breaks Down on Camera

Chelsea Handler broke down on camera when she found out her grandfather had served in World War II with the German army. The Jewish comedian was the subject of a recent episode of TLC’s show Who Do You Think You Are?, which helps celebrities investigate their ancestry.

“I’m very intrigued to find out how much participation my German grandparents had in the war,” Handler said. “My mother was German, she came over to America when she was 19 for the first time. My father, I guess, made a deal with my mother when they had children that they were gonna be raised Jewish. So I connect with my Judaism, or the Jewish side of my family, more than anything else.”

After digging into her family’s history, Handler discovered the truth about her German grandfather. “My grandfather served in the Second World War as a soldier. Whether or not he agreed with Hitler, he was serving in the Germany army. He was taken as a prisoner of war at some point to America, where he stayed for several years . . . When he went back to Germany he was very eager to come and take his family and move them back to the United States.”


Q&A — On our First Date, Remind Me to Tell You That Story About…

by Tamar Caspi under JDate,Online Dating

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“On our First Date, Remind Me to Tell You That Story About…”

Have fun here. Don’t actually tell the story though; the purpose is to tickle your taste buds, dip your toes in the water, and intrigue other daters by sharing just a little tidbit to get them to want to know more. Some great ones I’ve read include:

  • That time I went rappelling on Morocco
  • When I got locked inside a graveyard
  • How I racked up a $9,000 cell phone bill
  • Why a psychic said I would make it into the Guinness Book of World Records

The one-liner should be interesting, short, and enticing. If you can’t think of anything at all to write here, then ask a friend or family member who may recall an event you’re forgetting or who saw something from a different perspective (i.e. you may have thought projectile vomiting  on a bad date was horrific, but hopefully in retrospect you can see how it was funny. Laugh at yourself and you’re sure to make your date laugh too… and to see how humble you are!).


Love At First JDate: The Perfect Message

by JenG under Online Dating

Online dating would be much better if people just started chatting with each other like they were talking in real life. Eliminating the creepy or the overly flirtatious first messages and replaced them with something respectable and conversational.

I hope you wouldn’t walk up to someone at a bar and give them a wink face or compliment their looks, before even saying hello or introducing yourself. Treat your online dating messages in the same fashion, please.

  • Do: Make the person feel special. Spend the same amount of time (or more) that you’re allocating to browsing their photos to read their profile. Find out their interests and what it is that makes them stand out. If you sprinkle that throughout the message, the person will be more inclined to respond and give your profile a read.
  • Don’t: 1) Copy a message you sent to one person, and then paste it into an email for several others. This shows you’re mass messaging people on the site and no one wants to be another victim of your messaging spree. People want to feel special.  2) Send a one-word email. It’s hard to start off a conversation that way and shows that you didn’t take the time to read their “About Me” section.  3) Be negative. Telling the person you’re not a fan of online dating and your mom is forcing you to be on the site can make them feel bad about this process and also your intentions. Don’t start off a message in a way that makes them feel like you are forcing yourself to chat with them or take this process seriously.

Read more Jen Glantz, here: www.thethingsilearnedfrom.com.


Q & A — A Brief History of My Life

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

How do you answer JDate’s questions without sounding repetitive or cheesy or fake or boring? Let me help you craft personal and inticing answers to both the basic and intimate questions.

“A Brief History of My Life”

“Brief” is the key word here. There are so many other places throughout JDate’s profile which asks about you, so don’t be repetitive. Here are some examples where you can fill in the blank:

-I grew up in __________ with my parent(s) and ## siblings. Graduated from _________ and now live in ___________ where I love my job as a ________________.

-I moved around a lot growing up, living in _____________ , _______________ and _____________ and although my family is now living in _________________ I decided to move  for college to ________________ and have stayed in __________________ ever since.

-I was raised ___________________ (stream of Judaism) and now am _________________ although I still love celebrating the holidays with the traditions set by my parents. I grew up in ___________________ and moved around in my 20s but moved back and have loved exploring the city again as an adult!

Take those type of examples, where you you grew up, how Jewish you are, type of family you have, where you went to school and how you ended up in your current city. Maybe add how you got into your profession. Easy breezy.


The 3 Best Things You Can Do After the First Date (for men)

by Tripp under Relationships

Hopefully when you’re doing online dating you actually meet a person you would like to see again.

If that’s the case, then you’re doing great!

But, a lot of times it can go downhill after the first date. Let me help you out:

Here are 3 of the best things you can do after a first date to grow the connection between you and the girl:

1) Setting up the Second Date

A few quick “hello’s” and “how are you’s” aren’t the worst thing in the world via text. But, if you want to take it to the next level with a girl, it’s best you call to setup the second date. You’ve already made a strong connection with her, so why lose it by texting? Girls like it when you call. Most even like a call to setup the first date. Either way, pick up the phone to setup the next meet. It will make you that much more chivalrous.

2) Don’t Expect Quick Sex

After the first date has gone by a lot of men feel the need to push it fast physically. Instead, slow it down and get a read on her. Is she very touchy feely? Is she giving you the %&*$ me eyes? Look for signs before you persist! If you don’t see any then take things slow because she might want too also. If you are pushing her to stay over on the second date she might get a little scared of your eagerness and back off. Keep it classy.

3) Setup a Friends Meetup

This is not mandatory but definitely keep it in mind after the first date. If you really liked this girl then it’s not a bad idea to invite her out to one of your social functions or meet up at one of hers. One of the best ways to gain trust is to get her closer to your friends. Again, this is something you might have to feel out depending on how well you connect on the first date. If things were super comfortable and went well, then getting her out to meet your buds might be a good way to give her a sneak peak into your world.

Those are just a handful of ways you can build a deeper connection with a girl after the first date. List some others in the comments below, I would love to hear them!


Q& A — My Perfect First Date

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

How do you answer JDate’s questions without sounding repetitive or cheesy or fake or boring? Let me help you craft personal and inticing answers to both the basic and intimate questions.

“My Perfect First Date”

Don’t detail an exact date here (ie. early dinner and a glass of vino at Il Cucina followed by a walk on the beach during sunset while holding hands and then sharing a sweet kiss while saying goodbye) because not only do you not want to replicate the same date over and over but then you are also setting yourself up for your date expecting this itinerary.

Rather, discuss the reactions you hope to experience using these types of keywords:

- non-stop conversation

- attraction and chemistry

- lots of laughter

- time flies while we’re having fun

- can’t wait til the next date

- comfortable and easy