under Online Dating
Look, I know its tempting. I know the curiosity might sometimes drive you mad. I know you are even excited to talk to all the new potential dates you have.
But you need to stop checking your email so many times a day.
Especially those of you who have become more advanced at online dating and learned to successfully date people at will.
For starters, whether you are a guy or girl, popping up as logging in every hour will lower your value and make you look desperate. People who are attractive have lives outside the dating world and get around to their emails when they have a chance.
Second, you will find yourself slowly sitting at your computer day and night, endlessly writing emails. This will lead to online dating fatigue.
Check your mail twice a day and that’s it! Once in the afternoon. Once late at night. Respond to every email at once. Then shut the computer, log off, and resist the temptation.
No matter how boring life gets, you will have something to look forward to twice a day!
Part of what I do with online dating is constantly search for trends that people find success with.
One interesting trend I noticed was a study in relation to religion.
Being this is JDate.com, religion is obviously fairly relevant. But how many people are on JDate for religious reasons, or simply because they want to find someone with a similar cultural background? Or even more importantly, someone whom Mommy and Daddy won’t yell at them for?!
But anyways, the interesting thing about this study is that religion seemed to show that those who were devoutly religous had the lowest rate of response. Even more shockingly, athiests received the highest ratio of responses.
So what does this all mean? Its tough to say not knowing the sample size or what erroneus factors come into play.
For example, devoutly religious may receive less responses but maybe have higher success ratios.
But regardless, one thing is for sure, people do seem to pay attention to religion when looking for a partner.
In some of my other blog entries I discussed the fact that men are highly attracted to bad girls for various reasons.
However, does this mean that on the flip side, being a good girl is actually a turn off?
When I think of good girls, on the one hand I see a smiling happy couple, a beautiful house, a long lasting relationship with kids playing on the front lawn.
Then there is the dark side of me that sees someone that is uptight, never lets me do what I want, tries to always be perfect, and when it comes to one on one time, well…
Let’s keep this G Rated shall we?
The truth is, I more often see a good girl as something somewhat desirable, but lacking everything I truly want.
Where is the balance? Is it possible to have a girlfriend that is good girl half the week and bad-ass come weekend?! How about a beautiful, sexy woman, that is full of tattoos, is up for anything, but is a saint underneath it all?
Maybe I’m just never happy, but I want both!
I’m going to start right off the bat by admitting I’m slightly obsessive compluslive, a little neurotic, and get fixated on things that I really should not be fixated on. But then again, I’m a guy. We’re all a little nuts.
But sometimes I just can’t get over women that refuse to drink a beer. This makes me absolutely crazy.
Maybe its because I’m such a beer lover that I can’t accept women that will only appreciate wine and mixed drinks. Maybe its because I subconsciously want any woman I date to be one of the guys at heart, and this rules her out of fitting into this category. Or maybe I’m just crazy!
Regardless of what the case is, there is nothing sexier to me than a beautiful woman holding a beer. And those who refuse at all costs to ever drink a beer, you drive me crazy!
Just take a sip! =P
under Date Night
Going on a date that does not go nearly as well as we have hoped is a frequent occurence for online daters. Heck, it is why blogs such as this even exist! To help people vent, share, and discuss their problems.
So what do you do when you are on a date, the end of the night is here, and you know you will never ever see that person again. The walk to the car or door can be beyond awkward.
Some guys walk girls they are not interested in back to their car or door to be polite, meanwhile the girl misinterprets this for her date trying to sneak in a kiss.
Other guys DO walk their dates to the car with the hope of a kiss, meanwhile the girl is fearing for her life!
And sometimes neither party is interested and you both just want to go home as fast as possible.
So what’s the solution to avoiding the awkwardness that these last minute walks bring?
There is none!
My two cents…
and RUNNNN!!! =)
under Online Dating
Most times when we meet someone online, we will find ourselves thinking something along the lines of, “Well, I really like the person, I just wish they were…” Fill in the blank.
If only this person had one or two qualities that were different they would be the ideal person, and we could live happily ever after.
Which begs the question, can you ever really change a person? Can a bad boy be turned straight? Can a cheater be turned faithful? Can a serial dater find monagomy?
Opinions may differ greatly on this subject. Many will argue that our true personalities are molded when we are still young children. Others will swear to the changes they have seen in their significant others.
Is this just wishful thinking, or can we truly change? If so, dating women online sure would be a lot easier, so tell me your secret!
under Online Dating
In a previous post I discussed the notion that most guys love bad girls. This has to do with many factors, including the visual apeal, sexuality, and fun personality most bad girls exhibit.
Today I would like to discuss one more aspect of the bad girl that men love. I am referring to the perceived lifestyle of someone who is a bad girl.
Millions of girls out there are clingy at times, overly dramatic within a relationship, and create a lot of conflicts.
Bad girls often have the perceived image that they will not be hung up on every little thing you do. They appear to have lives outside of online dating and plenty of other interests to keep them happy. This is a turn on for many men when compared to the idea of a girl whose life revolves completely around a man.
When all is said and done, this can be very appealing. Except of course, if you love being the focus of attention 24/7?
under Online Dating
In my past blog entries I breifly discussed the importance of a male having a great online dating profile.
But what about women? How often have you seen a beautiful girls profile on a dating site that had three sentences or less? Yet, this same woman is probably receiving HUNDREDS of emails a week.
The reasons behind this is simple. As I frequently write about, the male and female mind are wired so differently. While females may be attracted to a male based on many qualities right off the bat, males are completely visual creatures. For the most part we zoom in on looks first and worry about everything else later. It is natural instinct, programmed into our DNA.
So what does this mean for these beautiful women? To put it bluntly, a great profile is not neccessary. Even if they fill one out with tremendous effort trying to sort out the people that message them, most guys will completely ignore this, feeling powerless to stop themselves from trying anyway!
It may be unfair to us guys out there, but sorry to say, beautiful women just don’t need to put the type of effort we put forth. Maybe we should start making them pay for dinner to make up for this!
under Online Dating
Every now and then you will see a profile or meet a girl that says she does not drink at all. While this may not be a big deal for some people, it can be awfully tough for those of us that are casual drinkers.
But regardless if you care whether or not you have a drinking partner, is this a red flag?
I personally have always been creeped out and wary of people that say they NEVER drink. Unless they have an addiction problem, I see this as a strange behavior. And to tell the truth, I am not really sure why.
Perhaps I view this person subconsciously as being socially inept. Or perhaps I view them as boring without ever getting to know them.
Are these judgements fair? Probably not. Call me stubborn, but they will never change. Am I the only one who feels this way or is not drinking at all a red flag that something is off?!
We all come to online dating for different reasons. Some of us are looking for a mere hookup, others are looking to casually date, while others want relationships and more. Whatever the reasons are, each person is entitled to use online dating for whatever purpose they wish.
However, what do you do when you are meeting lots of people, have never made any intentions to commit yet, and an important day comes up?
For example, let’s say your are dating a couple of women casually, and it’s a big holiday. Even though you may have never made any intentions to fully commit, women you are dating will expect you to be around on this day regardless of whether or not you are exclusive yet. This isn’t exactly fair to those of us who are honestly trying to find the one we are looking for while dating various people. They may say they don’t care, but they will.
The only way to avoid these difficulties is to get out of town! Disappear for a day and avoid the unnecessary drama. This will keep you from avoiding any potential bad situations and is the only solution to this dilemma. And remember, you’re not doing anything wrong unless you made your intent to commit clear!