I spent this last week in Greensboro, NC. It’s the city I grew up in. My sister was getting married, coincidentally enough to a guy she met on JDate 3 1/2 years ago in New York City. The wedding was a smashing success, and everyone had a lovely weekend. I spent some time with my brother-in-law Chris, and while we were shooting hoops in the backyard, we discussed JDate.
Chris had dated a few girls from JDate before he met my sister, Miriam. He said the same thing I have been experiencing; he would meet a girl, they dated for a bit before they both realized it wasn’t working, and then he went back to browsing profiles. Eventually he came across my sister’s, and after reading her profile that stated how much she enjoyed Broadway shows, sent her an email. In it contained a well-written and thought-out letter, which included a less-than-true statement about his own passion for musical theater.
Lo and behold, it worked! My sister was intrigued, and they met for coffee later in the week. He gladly went to Broadway shows, and in return she was willing to give professional hockey a chance, a sport that Chris enjoyed. Of course, later in their relationship, Chris admitted that he wasn’t a Broadway enthusiast, but by then it didn’t matter. His willingness to embrace a passion of my sister’s was enough for her, and in return she did the same for him.
What does this teach us? That you should lie about your interests? Not quite. But I don’t think there is a problem with embellishing them slightly to catch the interest of a certain JDater®. Who knows, maybe you can impress upon them an interest of yours!
When I moved out here to Los Angeles after college, a lot off my friends came too. Now that we’re all here, we’ve managed to find day jobs so that we can afford rent and groceries, and in our spare time we write and produce sketch comedy, a la Kids in the Hall or Upright Citizen Brigade.
Two of these friends that live together have each already had multiple flings with multiple women that they’ve met in bars, at work, or through other friends. I’ve had one brief fling, through JDate, and have been in the city for twice as long.
Why is this? In truth, they are more handsome and suave than I am, but they don’t really respect any of the women they get with, and the purely-sexual relationships they have do not last long.
I fantasize about walking into a bar, finding an attractive woman, and getting her back to my place, because I am single. This happens to my friends, but never to me. Is it because I have too much respect for women, or because I’m not handsome or suave enough?
It’s a rhetorical question, because I know your answer would be different whether you’re a man or a woman. And both answers are probably correct.
Hello! My name’s Adam, and I’m a recent college graduate. I grew up in North Carolina and went to college in Georgia. After miraculously finding a paid internship in the entertainment biz, I moved to the great city of Los Angeles to start a career and a brand new life. I’ve been out here for 8 months now, and while my job is exciting and fulfilling, I often drive home at night and feel like something is missing; an exciting and fulfilling relationship.
Going to bars in this city simply to try and pick up women usually ends with me spending too much on booze and going home alone. That’s not to say I never have a good time going out. I simply lack that extra confidence needed to approach women and strike up a conversation, even though I know that this is often all it takes. But time and time again, I find myself searching for something, anything to say to this beautiful woman as she walks past me, and thinking damn, now she’s talking to some tall guy with a nicer button-down shirt and gelled-out hair, simply because he had the confidence to say “Hey.”
This is why JDate is such a savior for guys like me. Not only do I know that most of these women have had a similar upbringing, but I actually have time to formulate my thoughts, be witty and get a general idea of what they are all about before I actually talk to them in person. There has always been a stigma about online dating, but I feel that in the past 3 years there has been a cultural revelation of sorts. A large percentage of our generation’s communication occurs online and via text message. Online dating is facing a revolution of its own, and it’s up to the users to shape its future.