I admit it, I judge people by their appearances. I try to stop myself because it’s an ugly habit, but sometimes it gets the best of me. I look at people who I know are single and I think of ways in which they could better their appearances in the hopes of meeting someone. Even if that person isn’t the typical “pretty,” he or she is someone’s type. Everyone is someone’s type. That said, you should look your best YOU. Spend the money to invest in good makeup and spend the time to learn to apply it and apply daily. Spend the money to invest in a good beard trimmer and spend the time to learn to line up your neck and do it every few days. Get contact lenses, highlights, braces, etc just so you can look the best you can for you. Will someone be attracted to you with no make-up or shaggy hair? Sure. But why depend on that. Instead, take action to put the odds in your favor.
You have to be ready to find love at any time in any place. That means having your make-up done, hair brushed and clothes fitting at all times. It could be a contact coming in for a business meeting in your office — so make sure you’re always put together in a well-fitting suit. It could a new guy in your workout class — so make sure your workout clothes are, um, supportive. It could be a new neighbor in the elevator — so wear cute sweats at all times. Just because you’re meeting your boys at the local dive to watch football doesn’t mean you shouldn’t change out of the shirt you wore to bed. Meeting your girls for Happy Hour after work? Remember to pack some items in the morning so you can freshen up first. You have to make the effort. Every time you leave the house is an opportunity. Make sure you capitalize on each one!
Today I would like to discuss infusing attraction builders into the stories that you tell during your online pick-ups.
If you have been following my blog over the course of the year you are probably well aware that there are many different ways that you can build attraction in online dating through the profiles you write, the messages you send and the pictures you take. Well, telling stories in your online pick-up or during your dates is no different and should be infused with plenty of attraction builders as well.
Telling stories should not be told merely to entertain. They should be used to reveal aspects of yourself that you not only want the opposite sex to know, but that will build attraction at the same time.
For example, in recent discussions I mentioned how creating high social value for yourself builds attraction levels with your potential date. Incorporate these principles into the story you are telling. If you were on vacation last month and were comped a V.I.P. room or had a connection with the owner of a bar, slide these examples of high social value into your story. If your job has high status in society or perks that society values, find a way to subtly mention that as part of your story.
Building social value is just one of ten ways to build attraction. There are so many ways to use these attraction builders in the stories you tell to your advantage. Be sure to do so and reap the benefits. This is critical to achieving high success.