I’m going to get personal for this post, not because I think anyone really cares about my personal life, but because I don’t think my story is all that unique and maybe someone out there can find something useful.
Normally I just provide online dating advice to men, but this blog entry goes out to the men and women out there.
For women who are online dating, life can start to feel extremely overwhelming, very quickly. Within days of signing up, most women are likely to have dozens and dozens of messages. For some, dozens is a grotesque understatement.
And for men who are more advanced at online dating and have thoroughly learned the secrets to attraction, receiving tons of emails will become frequent as well.
The problem lies in the fact that it is extremely tough to keep up. In fact, you will find yourself talking to so many people at times that it almost feels as if you are not talking to anyone. All the different faces just become one big blur.
Pick one day where you are going to send out all your first emails for the week. I personally prefer Sunday. Choose 10 to 12 people. Out of those, if you are following my advice properly, you should receive between 7 and 10 responses.
Out of those seven, narrow it down to three by the end of the week.
We can’t make time for everyone out there. Our goal with online dating should NOT be to date as many people as possible, ladies, or hook up with every girl you meet, guys. Our goal should be to be selective. And by setting up the right online dating profile, putting up the right pictures, and writing the perfect emails, being selective will be an option for us all.
So don’t overwhelm yourself. Just narrow it down and stop talking to so many people!