At some point in your dating career, you will end up with someone who is annoyingly affectionate. Usually you already have an inkling that this person isn’t “The One” — and so everything they do is annoying, but whether it’s a first date or a one-year anniversary, there are people out there who don’t realize their type of affection is anything but loving.

It’s those people who constantly touch you — regardless of if you’re eating, sleeping, in the midst of a fight, talking, walking, crying, getting ready, cooking, you get the point. Affection is (usually) welcome, as long as its the right amount at the right time. Some people don’t like to be touched when they are doing certain things or feeling a certain way and anyone interested in being with you long-term needs to learn to both read your body language and your moods!

A leading body language expert recently said that a woman should sit next to a man — rather than across from him — if she wants him to open up. The expert went on to say a man feels less intimidated and more intimate when the woman is sitting next to him. That would be okay once you’re in a serious relationship and can sit together on the couch, but how does that work when you’re just dating? Are you going to sit next to him in a restaurant and the both of you can either look at a wall, or at the crowd, or strain your necks craning to look towards each other? It doesn’t really make sense. I guess you could always make a list of restaurants which you know have booths and then request to sit there…

Body language is very important, but don’t try to force something because an expert tells you to. Leave the tip above for when you are in a serious relationship and keep to the tried and true body language tips for dating:

• smile a lot
• make eye contact
• play with your hair
• lean in towards him
• don’t cross your arms
• touch his arm or leg for a moment when you laugh or to show concern

While you’re out there searching for your special someone, remind yourself why you want to be one half of a couple and make sure your way of thinking is pure and real. Your reasoning for dating is written across your forehead in plain English whether you like it or not (and can be read between the lines of your profile). If you’re constantly wondering why perfectly eligible singles aren’t jiving with you, then maybe your purpose in dating isn’t genuine and you’re putting off the wrong vibe. Do you want to share your life with someone, grow old with the same someone and start a family with the same someone? Or are you just sick of being the fifth wheel, sick of sitting at the single’s tables and sick of going home to an empty house? Figure it out because you’re going to get whatever it is you put out there.

When you’re not sure about the kind of person you’re looking for and you’re not sure why you’re even out there looking, the doubt and cynicism will be apparent. Women can usually tell when a guy is not done playing the field, when he is still looking to have fun and is not yet ready to look for a wife and settle down. On the flip side, men can also tell when a woman is overly desperate and needy. How men and women react in these situations is something else altogether: some women may want to try and tame a player and some men go for a desperate woman because he may think she’s easy prey. Don’t fall into these categories if you don’t want to attract these types of people. Make sure you know what your target is – a fun time, a serious relationship or whatever it may be – and emote that on your face and in your body language.