I spent this last week in Greensboro, NC. It’s the city I grew up in. My sister was getting married, coincidentally enough to a guy she met on JDate 3 1/2 years ago in New York City. The wedding was a smashing success, and everyone had a lovely weekend. I spent some time with my brother-in-law Chris, and while we were shooting hoops in the backyard, we discussed JDate.
Chris had dated a few girls from JDate before he met my sister, Miriam. He said the same thing I have been experiencing; he would meet a girl, they dated for a bit before they both realized it wasn’t working, and then he went back to browsing profiles. Eventually he came across my sister’s, and after reading her profile that stated how much she enjoyed Broadway shows, sent her an email. In it contained a well-written and thought-out letter, which included a less-than-true statement about his own passion for musical theater.
Lo and behold, it worked! My sister was intrigued, and they met for coffee later in the week. He gladly went to Broadway shows, and in return she was willing to give professional hockey a chance, a sport that Chris enjoyed. Of course, later in their relationship, Chris admitted that he wasn’t a Broadway enthusiast, but by then it didn’t matter. His willingness to embrace a passion of my sister’s was enough for her, and in return she did the same for him.
What does this teach us? That you should lie about your interests? Not quite. But I don’t think there is a problem with embellishing them slightly to catch the interest of a certain JDater®. Who knows, maybe you can impress upon them an interest of yours!