Electives

by Aaron under JBloggers,Judaism,Online Dating,Single Life

As my semester nears its end, I get to do that joyous thing we all love to do in school: choose classes for the next semester. For once I am in the first group to register for classes, but it is still daunting. In the spirit of relating most of my dating blogs to business school lessons, I thought about the electives I’ve chosen to take in the last year of my personal life.

For starters, I decided to leave my job in retail management. This decision initially stemmed from my unhappiness in the job, but ultimately came to be meaningful in taking me back to my favorite part of life, learning. I love being a student more now than ever, and value every second I get to spend learning new, exciting things about the world of business.

Then, probably the second biggest thing is my religiousness. I started keeping Kosher for the most part in the last year, getting rid of milk and meat combinations, then all treif meat, and ideally going fully Kosher when I move to New York in the coming year (which I am hoping to do for my internship, and am open to job offers if readers have them!). I wrap tefillin every morning that isn’t Shabbat, and I am almost Shomer Shabbos (hindered by driving distance to my current shuls, but another situation I intend to fix by next year). I feel prouder of my involvement in my religion, and truly feel like I’ve seen myself grow.

Lastly, there’s my dating life. In the last year I’ve opened myself up to a lot of different things. Different girls than I’d normally date, sometimes in different cities than I’d ever dated (or lived) in. And I can say hands down, this year has been the best year of my dating life ever. I think a lot of it stems from the previous two areas of my life, areas that have allowed me to feel more whole than I ever have. I come across as more open to anything now, and truly love the adventures my life has taken me on.

So those are my electives for the year. I’m sure next year will bring a very different set, and that’s great. Whatever your choices are, or have been, there is no one else signing up before you, either, and now is the time to start picking your electives, too.


Ex-Rating

by AndyCowan under Relationships,Single Life

Imagine throwing a party for all the folks you’ve ever dated. Or a dating site that featured all your ex-girlfriends. What might you learn about yourself from the choices you’ve made over the years, and these former Ms. Rights who knew you all too well?

Imagine the party chit-chat and bonding among your guests: “Did he always do [fill in annoying habit here]?” “Yes! What about [fill in other annoying habit here]?” “Yes!”

Or for you “Jays” out there, imagine yourself combing through your exes on “Jay Date”. In each of their profiles under “Looking For”: “The anti-Jay.” Just kidding! Familiarity doesn’t always breed contempt.

Which begs the question: Are you better off looking for the same type, or since they didn’t go the ultimate distance, are you better off, a la a Seinfeld episode I once wrote, doing “the opposite?” No, not looking for guys, “not that there’s anything wrong with that”, a la another famous Seinfeld episode.

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