Get a piece of paper. Write down all of the questions you really want to ask your dates – with the hopes that they answer them truthfully – in order to know if they are right for you. Write down the questions that you’re usually afraid to ask because you don’t want to scare the person away. You know, the “how many kids do you want and how soon do you want to start?” and the “if you think I’m the right person how quickly would you want to get married?” Those are super scary questions to ask, right? But you want to know the answers, right? So think back to all the dates you have been on – both the awesome ones and the sucky ones – and think of the questions you really wanted to ask. Write them down. If you have more than five then narrow them down to no more than five. Then prioritize them. If you got the chance to ask one question without consequence what is the answer you most want to hear? These are the answers you need to find out in some way, shape or form. It means you probably won’t be asking the question straight out and it’s not best to pry on the first date, but if you get to a second date then try and figure out what this person’s thoughts are on the topics of importance to you so that you know before getting any deeper that you are on the same page. If a guy doesn’t want kids for another 5 years or a girl wants to get married tomorrow then you may need to cut the date short before you get in any further.