The 3 Best Things You Can Do After the First Date (for men)

by Tripp under Relationships

Hopefully when you’re doing online dating you actually meet a person you would like to see again.

If that’s the case, then you’re doing great!

But, a lot of times it can go downhill after the first date. Let me help you out:

Here are 3 of the best things you can do after a first date to grow the connection between you and the girl:

1) Setting up the Second Date

A few quick “hello’s” and “how are you’s” aren’t the worst thing in the world via text. But, if you want to take it to the next level with a girl, it’s best you call to setup the second date. You’ve already made a strong connection with her, so why lose it by texting? Girls like it when you call. Most even like a call to setup the first date. Either way, pick up the phone to setup the next meet. It will make you that much more chivalrous.

2) Don’t Expect Quick Sex

After the first date has gone by a lot of men feel the need to push it fast physically. Instead, slow it down and get a read on her. Is she very touchy feely? Is she giving you the %&*$ me eyes? Look for signs before you persist! If you don’t see any then take things slow because she might want too also. If you are pushing her to stay over on the second date she might get a little scared of your eagerness and back off. Keep it classy.

3) Setup a Friends Meetup

This is not mandatory but definitely keep it in mind after the first date. If you really liked this girl then it’s not a bad idea to invite her out to one of your social functions or meet up at one of hers. One of the best ways to gain trust is to get her closer to your friends. Again, this is something you might have to feel out depending on how well you connect on the first date. If things were super comfortable and went well, then getting her out to meet your buds might be a good way to give her a sneak peak into your world.

Those are just a handful of ways you can build a deeper connection with a girl after the first date. List some others in the comments below, I would love to hear them!


The #1 Thing Women Want…That You Don’t Have (Yet)

by Tripp under Relationships

So, what’s the #1 thing that women want?

Confidence.

It’s not the easiest thing in the world to obtain but it sure does attract the ladies.

So how do we gain confidence? Well, you could hire a dating coach to help you (hint, hint) or you could read the rest of this blog post to find out exactly how.

1) Failure IS an option

The more and more we fear failure the less and less we try. And the less and less we try, the less likely we are to get ANY results. Without results we cannot build confidence. How do we know we can succeed at something unless we give it a go? It’s gonna take a few failures to get there so what are you waiting for? You see that cute girl online, message her. You want to say something flirty, go for it. In order to gain true confidence, we have to believe in ourselves and seeing success results is proof in the kosher pudding.

2) Drop the Ego Like A Bad Habit

Once you let go of your ego clarity comes your way. Your mind is free from the burden of excuses and negative thoughts. Your ego holds you back from taking action, taking risks and taking out the next cute girl on a date. In order to exhibit true confidence you can’t rely on the mess of your thoughts to stop you from ever making a move. The next time you come up with a new reason not to take a chance, don’t listen to your jumbled anxiety and read this blog post again. Remember, the only thing ever getting in the way…is you.

3) Take Baby Steps

In order to increase confidence in any area of life, taking the baby step approach will be your best method. Small steps will ensure you are headed in the right direction and constantly moving forward. To conquer your fear, take life head on, but one step at a time. Remember when you learned how to ride a bike? Did you just hop on and go? No, probably not. You started on the tricycle. Then, when you were ready, you got on the big boy bike. Remember, one baby step for you, one giant leap for your confidence.

Those are 3 surefire ways to boost confidence in yourself. You’re going to need it because the ladies dig it. Stop being unsure and get out there! Like I always say: Successful people do what unsuccessful people are unwilling to do.

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