Dating is a marathon, not a sprint. It’s not about how fast you can find your beshert or how quickly you’ll get married, it’s about finding the right person no matter how long it takes. Some dates will get a gold medal for being the rudest scums of the earth, while others will medal for planning an awesome, unique date. Some dates will earn high scores for keeping the conversation moving and interesting while others will stand on the podium for failing to make an effort or intrigue. The only person you can worry about is yourself, so make sure you leave every date thinking of you as a class act, even if they were a classless schmuck. Keep everything in perspective and make sure that at the end of the day you are happy with your decisions – whether that means accepting a 2nd date or cutting a bad date short – because you have to live with yourself. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to find the right person right away… remember, 26.2 miles not the 100 yard dash.
Recently, I have been bombarded by emails online. Maybe it is the arrival of summer. Great weather, less clothes, people are out and about and in good spirits wanting to do fun activities. The potential suitors range in age, geography and now sexuality.
One of the emails I received from a gentleman asking me if I would ever consider “a real, long term relationship with a bi-curious guy.” For those who know me, let’s just say I can’t wait to meet my beshert. I’m open and not judgmental as to who may be a good partner for me, and I try to not only date “my type” in this dating journey. Yet, at the same time I’m pretty traditional, so my jaw opened and I laughed as I read the bi-curious proposal. Is this what my dating life has come to?? I feel like the protagonist in the 2001 Indie film, Kissing Jessica Stein. Granted this emailer was extremely handsome per his photo and a VP of a Media Corporation, but I think I’ll take a pass.
Then of course everyday there are those emails that come from San Diego and though I love California it is kind of hard to develop a relationship through email unless there is already a solid foundation. GU “Geographically Undesireable” is a real challenge in cyberworld. Unless it is a Bi-Cycle lover perhaps I’ll stay away from the Bi hyphenations for now.