I’ve written a number of posts about not drinking on a date, knowing your limit, and keeping your judgment intact… but what do you do when your date gets totally wasted? My friend Carrie recently told me about a date where the guy arrived buzzed and quickly downed a few drinks, mixing liquors, and became quite inebriated. She knew she was done with him, and he was becoming more and more rambunctious and disrespectful, but she also felt an obligation to make sure he got home safely so she put him in a cab and hoped he was coherent enough to give his address. This was not her responsibility, but I did appreciate her sincere concern. If this happens to you, get the bartender involved. You don’t need to put yourself in harm’s way. It doesn’t matter why your date chose tonight to get drunk — if they lost their job or found out a loved one died or something else just as awful — then they should have cancelled the date. You don’t have to sit by and see how the night is going to end nor do you have to give them another chance. It’s clearly not meant to be so alert the bartender and go on your merry way.
Don’t get drunk on a date, it’s never a good idea. If the date sucks then just wait until it’s over and then go meet your buddies for some drinks or go home and pour yourself a generous glass of wine. Getting drunk on a bad date will not help it end any faster or any easier, in fact it can make things worse in many ways. The last thing you want to do is lower your inhibitions and go home with the bad date and end up having a very regrettable one night stand. Or you could end up saying something that makes you look bad or reveals a secret about yourself you didn’t mean to share or you could hurt your date’s feelings. One, maybe two drinks maximum is what you should allot yourself. Keep it classy.