Have you ever told a story on a date you thought was funny/interesting/unique/heartfelt/etc only to never hear from your date again? Yeah, don’t tell that story on 1st dates anymore. Live and learn. You know which stories I’m talking about, the one about your parents eating so many carrots that their palms turned orange (real line I heard from a guy), or the one about your family of sleep walkers who’ve all gone to the bathroom in rooms where there isn’t even a toilet (a friend who will remain unnamed), or the one about that date you went on where the guy had a long thick hair growing out of the tip of his nose (a date I went on). None of these stories need to be told on early dates. Don’t tell stories about how your family is odd just yet, don’t talk about dates you’ve been on and don’t talk about anything having to do with the bathroom. Talk about you. The best you. Leave the embarrassing stories for later… there will be plenty of time, believe me!
Dear Gems from Jen,
If you meet someone you like in a group social setting, how do you let them know you’re interested without embarrassing yourself?
Well, that all depends. What is embarrassing about being interested in someone? We all have experienced being interested in someone. It is a human reaction and there is nothing to be embarrassed about. I know it can provoke anxiety to approach someone that we want to get to know better, but without the risk nothing can be gained. If you are not comfortable with being direct, here are a few ideas:
My first suggestion is to be yourself. Of course we all want to make a great first impression, but don’t overdo it. Feeling comfortable in your own skin is one of the most important qualities a person can possess. Having confidence increases attractiveness. Be sure of who you are and use your positive attributes to enhance your attraction rate.
Next, use your body language to express how you are feeling. Eye contact, leaning in and listening attentively, turning your body towards the person you are interested in, and making sure your body is not closed off. What I mean by that is keep your arms uncrossed, so that you appear welcoming. Ask questions! Let the person know you are interested in getting to know him/her better. Don’t just talk about yourself.
Remember, there are people who are going to like us and there are people who aren’t. That’s life. If the person you would like to spend more time with does not feel the same way there are plenty more out there who will!
Gems from Jen