Many singles have special friends when they’re between relationships. Sometimes those special friends started out as dates that didn’t have a real future. Other times those special friends started out as “just friends” and then turned into something more. Either way, what happens when you start to really like the person who you aren’t supposed to have emotions towards? Can a relationship based only on sex become one of substance?
Sometimes, yes. Other times, no.
First, try to get out of the bedroom and go grab a meal. Treat it like a date! See if you can hang out and maintain a conversation. And take a risk by mentioning that you’re interested in seeing if the special friendship could become more.What do you have to lose? Absolutely nothing!
Everyone has that friend — that one who has always only been platonic but that you have mad chemistry with. You “don’t like each other like that” but other people think that you’re secretly hooking up because you guys have that spark when you’re together. You have an easy rapport, you finish each other’s sentences, you laugh at inside jokes and you are each other’s plus one to weddings where you have THE BEST time dancing until dawn. But you’re just friends. That’s all fine and dandy, but how in the world are you going to meet your Beshert when you have this amazing friend with you all the time? Everyone is going to think you’re a couple. You have to make sure you go out with same sex friends sometimes to up your chances of meeting someone. It’s really nice to have a really good friend of the opposite sex, but once you do meet your Beshert that friendship is going to have to adjust to fit into a new space. Start now.
You meet a guy, fall in love with him, break-up and then agree to become “special friends” hoping that he recognize the error of his ways and fall back in love with you and ask you to be his girlfriend again. Listen, they can make movie after movie about special friends falling in love, but that usually doesn’t happen. You can save yourself the heartache — and the self-respect — by realizing that nothing good can come of it. If you are really, truly over him and don’t want to be alone, then, well, even still proceed with caution because you may not realize the emotions that you still have for that person. In addition, the time you spend with your special friend may be keeping you from opportunities to meet your Beshert. It’s hard to see the predicament from the outside, but try to understand the position you’re putting yourself in and see how it probably won’t turn out for the best.