Are you intimidated by a successful man?
Would you let a man’s success make you feel like you’re not good enough for him?
I know a man who has conquered the businessworld and is well known not only in our community but nearly everywhere he goes. Women have always adored him as he is handsome and charming in addition to powerful, but women were also so completely intimidated by him that they didn’t even approach him. Finally, a woman with some cojones took her time getting to know him as a friend while still keeping enough about herself private that he was intrigued. At 41 years old, he is finally engaged.
I know a man who makes millions and he lets everyone know it. And no woman will ever measure up but it’s not because he thinks he’s too good but because he’s too afraid she is with him for his money. The problem with that is he makes her feel that way too. He will have to trust someone, someday or be alone forever. Chances are he is not going to meet a woman with as much money as he but that doesn’t mean a woman is inferior or a golddigger for that matter.
Men: you’ve got the success, the money, the looks, but you’re single. You almost have everything – almost – but you’re the one keeping yourself from more. You will figure out if a woman is with you for your fame and fortune really quickly, just trust your instincts, but if you have to give them a chance first! Stop acting arrogant, or like you’re better than thou, just chill and be humble. Humble is hot.
Maybe I’m just old fashioned when it comes to dating but I believe that if I ask a woman out, and we go out for drinks or dinner, that I should pay. It’s not a macho thing because I’m actually a feminist and women’s rights advocate, it’s more of the fact that even though our sensibilities as a society have changed over the years I still believe in acting like a gentleman.
Now I don’t necessarily take this concept as far as some might, but I am big on always trying to arrive first so that she doesn’t have to wait for me, opening doors, taking care of the bill and making sure my date gets home okay. My intention in performing these actions is not in any way to exert some form of archaic male dominance, but simply to make my date feel special.
Call me crazy but when I take a woman out on a date I want her to feel important, and that is one of the reasons why I try to do a lot of little things to distinguish myself as a gentleman. Also, as a big brother, I always try to think about how I would want a guy to treat my sister in a similar situation. If a woman was ever to express to me that she was uncomfortable with the dynamic that I had created on our date then I would certainly try to adjust my approach, but otherwise I assume that even by 2010 dating standards my behavior still has some kind of appeal.
Look, I’m not saying that you should bring your date roses or take her out on extravagant dates where you spend a boat load of cash because flowers are cliché and spending money to impress a woman is, in my opinion, a recipe for disaster; however, I do think that the little things matter. Opening a door, putting thought into where you take a woman on your first date and taking a general interest in her life is something that we can all do very easily, and whether you end up marrying that other person or not it’s nice to leave a date knowing that at the very least you treated your date like a lady.