Balancing Act

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

People think they want to date and marry someone that they’re similar to, but really you want someone different who will balance you. My husband and one of my close girlfriends are very similar in how they deal with stress and they joke around that if they were married to each other they would never speak. They both feel that they need spouses such as myself and her husband to balance them out.

If you both like all the same things, life will get a little boring. I love football and my husband loves basketball so we’ve both taken the time to learn and enjoy the other’s sport. My husband loves UFC so that’s something he gets to do with his friends, sans wifey. I love sushi, and I go with my friends for a girls night out.

So don’t rule out another single just because you don’t like all the same things or have the same hobbies, instead celebrate your differences, teach other about your interests and enjoy maintaining some independence.

Love Thyself

by GemsFromJen under JBloggers,Relationships

A huge mistake a lot of people make when beginning a relationship is to put the new person before themselves. It feels good to put others before ourselves, but in the end it will inevitably lead to resentment. Our needs are important and need to be fulfilled before we can give love to another person. Taking care of ourselves helps our sense of self worth to flourish. Take some time to get to know yourself.  Don’t lose touch with family and friends. Don’t give up hobbies. Make time for yourself and pamper yourself.  Once you are fulfilled, a relationship will complement rather than fill a void that can never be filled by another person. Loving thyself is the most important gift we can give ourselves.

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