Growing up we all had dreams of how we saw our lives unfolding. We pursued the things we had control over, and worked hard to try and put certain things in place. But finding and falling in love is not necessarily something you can check off of your list so easily. That’s not how life works. Love is messy.
But, giving up that vision is difficult and can prevent us from seeing other — likely better — options standing right in front of us because we are so stuck trying to achieve the picture in our head of how it is supposed to be. That means being open to new things, things that may make us slightly uncomfortable at first, and playing around with that “preferences” section rather than simply inputting exactly what we think we want. You might find yourself happily surprised!
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We all have a vision of how we want love to look, unfortunately fantasy and reality rarely measure up. If you think everything will click together beautifully when you meet “The One,” and that you will never fight, and you will have sex every other day, and you will like each other’s families and friends, and you will love the other person every second of every minute of every hour of every day for the rest of your lives… then you will be in for major disappointment.
True love does exist, but that does not mean that it will be easy. In fact, life will probably become more confusing, difficult and crazier because now you are thinking of another person in addition to yourself… and you will possibly (or eventually) be adding even more people into that equation when children enter the picture.
Don’t get stuck on an idea of what love should look like; chances are it will look nothing like that when it happens, but you need to be open to love in any form. If you’re waiting for love to fit into a box that you’ve created based on your vision of ideal love, then be prepared to be alone for a long time.