How does a relationship get off the ground? Obviously meeting and feeling an attraction is the first step in this process. I believe in our society relationships are projected as fairy tales. For those of us who have been in a relationship, we know this is usually way off of the mark. Everyone loves that feeling of euphoria, but rarely does it last. If it did, our society would be walking on cloud nine and in my opinion the world would have a lot less problems.
However, I digress. Once the feeling of euphoria dissipates the true relationship comes into focus. This is where those littlie idiosyncrasies come into play. He leaves toothpaste on the counter and she jabbers on and on about nothing. Sometimes, even in my line of work, I’m amazed when a relationship endures. The good news is they can endure and a lot of them actually do! The key is to create moments of euphoria and learning the art of compromise. Chose your battles and communicate honestly and frequently! Once couples get this down then the true relationship begins.
When I think about relationships and the numerous books, movies and discussions had on the subject, it is a little overwhelming with the abundant and sometimes conflicting views. It should be easy…nothing is easy…it takes work… I’m already confused. I’m not sure whether a relationship is easy or requires work is an accurate indicator of great love or success. What I do know, as cheesy as it sounds, is I want someone who “just gets me.” Period. Though trivial (but an indicator of something larger) someone who remembers I like the yellow packet and not the pink packet in my coffee, someone who is willing to ask the difficult questions and someone who is willing to be emotionally vulnerable. Someone who knows my idiosyncrasies (being fastidious has a calming effect on me) and those quirky traits makes that special someone even more endearing. For me, everything aside, you just get someone, you understand them, you are able to see things from their viewpoint – even though it may not be your own or you may not even agree – but you are willing and able to put yourself in their shoes and appreciate it for what it is. It is all the imperfections and quirkiness that someone else embodies that makes this person “the right wrong person” for you.