under Date Night
I don’t know about you, but I easily went on 100 first dates and only a handful of second dates. That meant that I was excited and nervous prior to a second date, because they happened so seldom! As I approached my date, I wondered… what is the appropriate greeting here? Just smile? Hug? Kiss? Luckily, there is a pretty simple answer.
As you walk up to your date you should do whatever it is you did to end your first date, plus a little extra. What does that mean?
- If you left by standing and smiling and waving, then keep that smile going but add in a little hug
- If you left with a hug, then hug again but add a kiss on the cheek or hug a bit longer and include a squeeze
- If you left with a kiss, then kiss again and allow the kiss to linger just a bit longer
- If you left with MORE than a kiss, then definitely kiss again to start this date
You both know that it wasn’t easy getting to a second date with someone — you liked the first date, you’re interested in learning more, and there’s attraction — so you want the other person to know that you’re excited without coming on too strong. You also still don’t really know this person and are understandably anxious for it to go well, by being prepared with how you’re going to greet each other then you will be able to get past the first hurdle quickly and move on the date with ease.
Spring is here (finally!) and while the flowers are abloomin’, people are asufferin’ from allergies. Alas, this post has nothing to do with spring succulents, but rather with the other succulent — your pucker (not your pecker, get your head out of the gutter!) — that is, your lips. Lips are important but it’s not how thick or thin they are but how moisturized they are. So I guess this does tie back in to allergies after all as most people with a stuffy nose or blocked sinuses right now have dry lips as well.
No one wants to kiss dry lips. You could have pencil-line thin, barely-there lips or you could have Lisa Rinna plump and juicy lips, but if they are dry and cracked and you have that yucky white film building up in the corners of your lips, then no one is going to want to kiss you.
Carry chapstick with you at all times, particularly on the first few dates. Ladies — I strongly advise that you find a tinted chapstick or something non-sticky to put on your lips. Wet lips draw a man to your lips and almost compel him to kiss you. Men — I don’t care if it’s strawberry flavored, make sure you moisturize your lips. Even if your lips don’t feel dry you should roll on a layer in an undercover way prior to puckering up.
under Date Night
So there you are on a first date which often feels like an interview from your academic resume by your siblings. The fact is that rarely anything earth shattering is going to be revealed on your first or second meeting. I am amused thinking of the convenience and efficiency if the cards were placed on the table revealing everyone’s baggage and so early on you can make the determination of whether or not you might want to invest in another three months in the courtship ritual. Granted it takes away the chance of falling in love and then perhaps those Jokers aren’t as much as a stumbling block as you might have otherwise thought.
However for me, that hasn’t been the case during those first meetings. You sit across the table as you hear the yadi yadi catching every third word or so and wondering, ‘is this someone I want to kiss?’ C’mon, you know you all have thought that as he/she is recanting that funny story from their younger days. While making this determination you hear the yadi yadi yadi and may miss some good nuggets of substantive information that reveal the person’s character. And seriously, isn’t that the most important thing (of course, after an initial determination of kissability)?