What Would Jew Do?
For whatever reason — a giant zit, a bad day at the office, bloating, or your ex calls and makes your head (and heart) spin — you need to reschedule a first JDate at the last minute… do you lie or tell a version of the truth?
This is where little white lies can work for you… you don’t need to expand upon your reasoning for rescheduling a date, just say something really important came up that you have to deal with and you apologize for the late notice but you need to move your date to another time. The important part of the conversation is to make another date right then and there, otherwise the other person will think you are just canceling in a “nice” way and blowing them off. So make sure you reschedule before hanging up and don’t put too much time between the date you’re canceling and the date you’re meeting.
What Would Jew Do?
When you’re dating it’s normal and even expected to stretch the truth and say little white lies, but what is the threshold for taking it too far?
Here’s an easy one: most people don’t own their cars outright, especially if they’re under the age of 40 and are driving a luxury vehicle worth $45,000 or more. So don’t be too overly impressed by someone with a sexy ride because they are paying a hefty payment every month. And sure, they may make more than enough money to do so, or they could be counting pennies in order to keep themselves in a lifestyle that would impress you. Then again, it’s not polite to ask someone if their car is paid for or not, so simply not allowing yourself to be impressed by material things will help you get past that LWL. (Conversely, someone who is super impressed by your car or other material items may not be the type of person you want to date.)
Everyone tends to say “I know lots of people who…” or “I’ve gone there or done that tons of times” when really they only know a few people who… or went there once and did that twice, but by stretching the truth they are making a stronger point and possibly impressing you. This is a normal LWL, just don’t let it get out of hand by exaggerating every detail because eventually you will get caught!