under Date Night
After you begin connecting with someone on JDate there’s a balance of power that shifts continuously. Who wrote the last email? Who sent the last text? Who made the last phone call? It’s all part of the game… and it sucks, but you’ve got to play ball. If you were the last one at bat (emailing, texting or calling), then give the other person a chance to hit (contact you).
Enough with the symbolism… if you take a step a back and realize that you’re doing most of the contacting, planning, talking, following up, and so on, then perhaps the other person is not so into you. It’s tough to admit, but they may just be bored and have nothing else to do, and you’re such not bad company to pass the time. Sorry.
To borrow a well-known line… if he or she is not contacting you, then they’re just not into you.
under Date Night
Matchmakers have had to take on new techniques in this modern day of technology. Recently I got an email from a friend with a link to a JDate profile, asking me if I knew the girl and if I would approve of him making contact and… get this… if I would lay the groundwork by telling her what a good guy he is as well.
I did know the gal and did approve of his choice, so I agreed to do what he asked and sent her a message letting her know that a guy friend of mine saw her on JDate and would be contacting her on JDate, but wanted to make sure she knew who he was since she was more than likely being inundated with messages. She wrote me back and told me she was interested as well and would look forward to his email.
This is just another example of how to proactively JDate and use all your contacts (and means) to meet your Beshert.
You don’t need to cross the Grand Canyon without a tether, but you should take risks with your dating life — the safe kind, the kind you can’t hurt doing (except for a little dent in your ego at the very worst), the kind pertaining to making contact on JDate. Go ahead and write that email to the guy or gal whose profile you’ve been viewing over and over. What do you have to lose? At a certain point you have to get over who should email whom first, or what the order of things should be, and just make things happen!