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What do your profile pictures say about you? If you’re smiling, I think, “Here’s a nice person who connects with me and could really like me.” After regaining my sanity, I think, “Here’s a total stranger grinning into a camera lens.”
Do you want to send the message that you’re unpredictable or quirky? Try brooding and not smiling. Although I’m liable to think I did something to offend you and I haven’t even met you yet. But that’s just me. I even take spam personally.
Like staying on the go? Show it in a picture. But remain still enough to take the picture, or you’ll resemble a blur. Prefer rotting on the couch? Photoshop yourself sitting not on the sofa but in a hot air balloon. When they find out later you’re a couch potato, tell them the “hot air” was a message.
If you have a fun group shot with your pals, make sure each and every pal is less cute than you are.
Have a great picture with your ex? When chopping him or her off, be sure to remove any remnant of the strange tattoos on their forearm, unless it’s to signal us it’s why you left them.
You click with a JDater, go out on a couple dates and a photo op presents itself. So you snap away and capture the moment on film, er, your iPhone. But what now? What do you do with said photo? It’s super cute, you look great, your date is hot, but who is going to see it? You’re not an official couple yet so you can’t post it on Facebook. So what do you with this symbol of, well, potential?
Many years ago pre-Mrs., I had my first Facebook break-up where I had to un-tag and remove photos of me and an ex. That wasn’t fun. And as quick as I was, and as Facebook-savvy as I was in deleting any News Feed items, I still wished I had kept that non-relationship under wraps a little while longer. I had learned my lesson. Until it was more serious I would not be publicizing any romantic endeavors.
When I met my husband we took photo after photo. And I stored each photo until we became official. First, I printed out the pictures and carried them around with me. I would sneak glances at them and smile, and when people would ask me why I was quitting my job and moving halfway around the world, I would proudly flash the 5x7s. Finally, we discussed becoming Facebook official (it was a quick conversation — the answer was yes from the both of us) and then I finally posted them on Facebook… and printed and framed them to display in our new shared apartment.
Take it slow. A simple act such as posting an innocent photo can start a conversation you may not be ready to have.
With 2011 being a New Year, it is a great time to make some New Year’s resolutions to get your dating life on track. While New Year’s Resolutions are common and generic, let’s focus on online dating resolutions. As you start this year, think about making the following improvements that will help to improve your online dating life.
Put up some new pictures – Put up some profile pictures that show your best assets. Your photo album should be treated with care and carefully created. The idea is to tell the story of your life through pictures.
Fix that profile – Writing an online dating profile requires a lot of effort and skill. Look over that dusty old profile of 2010 and come up with a new profile that will help to build attraction and generate interest.
Improve your humor - The biggest way to generate interest in both males and females during an initial conversation is through humor. Start finding ways to make your potential dates laugh through your emails and Instant Messages and rid yourself of repetitive small talk.
Improve your inner and outer health – Improving your physical health will not only make you more attractive to the opposite sex, but will increase your mental health, as well. This will provide you a tremendous boost in self confidence.
Follow these New Year’s Resolutions and you may just find your online dating life heating up for 2011. So get to work!