We all have issues AKA “endearing idiosyncrasies.” Anyone who blames the demise of a relationship solely on the other person is both naïve and not very self-aware. “He/She had more issues than Playboy” I have heard. Survey says X. More likely your issues weren’t compatible and you weren’t willing to put the effort into compromise. Being able to see things from the other person’s perspective is KEY! Understanding their endearing idiosyncrasies and compromising to relieve the stress is essential for a successful relationship. For a relationship to succeed both people have to move toward center ground. For example, if someone is a scheduled personality and the other person is more of a last minute/non-planner you can imagine how their interactions would probably drive each other crazy. Is it a deal breaker? Not necessarily, but it would cause anxiety and frustration on both ends. Both parties would have to move more toward the center of the spectrum – the planner type chillin’ a little more; and the fly-by-the-seat-of-my-pants individual understanding the need for structure in his/her partner’s life. Seasons change, but “in general” people don’t. BUT I have seen relationships succeed because of the desire and the willingness to move toward the center.