by JeremySpoke under Relationships,Single Life

If you want to get girls to like you, you can’t just be likable. You have to practice. You can’t just practice in the mirror because the mirror will love you, but the world won’t.

Start with places where you buy food. See what works and what doesn’t. Try your cute mannerisms on the woman (or man) behind the counter. If you’ve got new material, this is the place to try it. If you’re wearing jeans, casually put your left hand in your pocket. See if that garners any attention. If it doesn’t, try the right hand. Ask her how her day is going. If she answers unfavorably, it’s either because your question isn’t working or because she just hates her job. If it’s the former, try to revise your question the next day. Go for minimalism. Just say, ‘hi’.

For the lady working behind the counter at dinner, take another approach. Be the over-confident guy. Hold up the line while you continuously talk to her, whilst never taking your eyes off hers. When the guy behind you tells you to move, defend your honor! Show her that you’re not a pushover. Ask her out in front of all of the angry people behind you. Sure they will roll their eyes, and may spit on you, but it will be spits of respect.

Do this so much that it becomes second nature whenever you’re in public. I don’t see any potential drawbacks to this at all. Don’t necessarily hit on every girl you see. Just work out all of your quirks and pay attention to what works. The absolute worst that can happen is that you will alienate everybody in your life and will die alone.

However, do not practice your flirting at work. This is dangerous, and really is the best literal manifestation of a lose-lose situation. When you get rejected, you lose a date. When you get rejected at work, you lose a date and a job.

New Years Resolutions Part Two

by jpompey under Online Dating,Relationships

In one of  my last online dating blogs we discussed a few New Year’s Resolutions to help us with our online dating lives.  Some of the potential New Year’s resolutions that I suggested were to:

  • Add new photos to your photo album and update your gallery
  • Perfect your profile
  • Work on humor
  • Improve your mental and physical health

When you are looking to meet the perfect Jewish guy to take home to mom, or simply meeting women online to find a casual date, this New Year’s resolutions may help a lot.  This week I will be adding a few more things that you can throw on to your list.

Understanding the mind of the opposite sex – The male and female brain is wired completely differently. This is where many fail in relationships because they just can’t understand that the two sexes don’t think the same.  Take the time this year to understand the mind of the opposite sex and learn its intricacies.

Try new dating ideas - People that have been dating for a while are used to being taken on the same boring dates over and over.  If you have been online dating for a while, odds are you have fallen into similar habits. Keep things exciting for both you and your date!

Practice, Practice, Practice – Online dating was a skill that took me years to learn and perfect before I was able to pull off a successful date with ease any time I wanted to.  If you want to improve your dating life you simply have to work at it as much as possible and treat it just as seriously as you would anything else in life.

Add these three things to your list and continue to work on improving your love life for 2011.  Have fun!