Half-Hearted Profiles

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

Dear Tamar,

Why don’t people post answers to the questions, why don’t they post pictures, and why don’t they have a screen name instead of the serial number JDate gives them?

Dear Half-Hearted Profiles?

Respectively, I don’t know, I don’t know, and well, I don’t know. These are good questions and simply put, if someone didn’t take the time to complete their profile then you don’t need to take the time to look at their profile. It’s their loss and it’s a shame. I don’t understand why someone would sign up and then not finish filling out the questionnaire or post some photos. If you like the part of the profile you do see then it can’t hurt to send a message letting them know that you’d like to learn more, but don’t take it personally if you don’t hear back. Check out these links to see what I previously had to say about these topics: What’s in a Name? Everything. and Under Interrogation. Lastly, don’t let your frustration with people’s half-hearted profiles linger because then you’re letting their dating issues effect your dates.


What’s in a Name? Everything.

by Tamar Caspi under JBloggers,JDate

Congratulations! You’re a member of JDate, the largest Jewish singles group in the world! You took the big, giant step for mankind and signed up to create an account and if you played your cards right you were probably able to convince your Jewish mother (who is without a doubt pining for grandchildren) to pay the membership fee.

There are a few rules that should be abided by to make your JDate journey both enjoyable and effective. The first has to do with your screen name. The long jumble of letters and numbers that you are automatically given is not acceptable, it’s lazy. Take the time to think of something original. At this point, your real name is inconsequential while your profile name is essential. On JDate, the first thing you see is the profile name, even before you see the photo. If your first impression is your only impression make it the best impression possible and take the time to spiff up your profile name.

I know it’s hard to think of something unique with more than half a million members, but it’s not impossible. Write down a list of nouns and adjectives that relate to your life. Between your name (first, middle and last), your hometown or current town, your schools (undergrad, law school, medical school, the acronym or even the mascot), your profession, your hobbies and descriptions of your appearance there are plenty of combinations that will both be unique and reflect something about you. Play with words, have fun, be creative and think about what kinds of profile names you would or wouldn’t click on and then apply that to yourself.