Social Media Snafu

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

After writing the post Anti-Social Media¬†¬†earlier this week I read my other favorite blog which spoils The Bachelor. I’ve watched that show since the 1st season with Alex but enjoy it so much more now knowing who wins. I won’t spoil it for you here, but in the column recapping Monday night’s episode Steve also spoiled one of the final contestant’s reputations: Brooks was caught on camera just 18 months ago in Mexico making out with a woman old enough to be his mother while his girlfriend at the time was back home. The older woman’s daughter sent the photos to Steve to post, with her mother’s permission, because she thought it was hilarious. Granted, if I were Desiree I may not think it’s so hilarious but as someone not involved in their lives I find it all the more entertaining.

So here’s the thing, Brooks went down to Mexico with a friend and got drunk and hooked up with a cougar. No one would have been the wiser except for the fact that it was captured on camera. And then posted on one of the most popular Reality TV spoiler sites around. What happens in Vegas doesn’t stay in Vegas any longer. If you’re doing something you shouldn’t be doing then make sure no one is documenting it. It’s difficult in this day and age with such high quality cameras and video recorders on our cell phones, but if you’re unsure about someone clicking away then maybe you shouldn’t be doing it.

You never know when something you do will come back to haunt you, be it your relationship or your career. If you wouldn’t want it plastered on a billboard in Times Square or on Sunset Blvd next to those adorable JDate ads, then err on the side of caution and don’t do it!


Survivor: Immunity

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

Watching the Survivor finale and people winning immunity made me think of dating. I’m laughing as I write this because it’s ridiculous to compare a reality TV show game to real-life, but dating can feel like a race to the finish line. The difference is that you don’t want to be the “sole” survivor of this game, but rather end up with a lifelong partner in the end (see: Boston Rob and Amber). And you are not going to be able to be immune to the difficulties of dating. Dating is tough, dating can suck at times, but dating is a means to an end so try as hard as you can to have fun while you’re at it. Dating is going to hurt and there’s nothing you can do to stop it, and if you try to be immune to your emotions then you’re going to fail.