If It’s Too Good To Be True…

by Tamar Caspi under Online Dating,Relationships,Single Life

There is not one person on this Earth who will agree with you about everything and think that the sun, moon and stars should revolve around you. If someone tells you constantly that you’re the best thing since sliced bread and tells you you’re perfect and have no faults, then try to listen to your subconscious telling you something isn’t kosher. It sounds like you’re probably getting played. It’s that amazing prospect who never called you again. Don’t take it personally, it happens, just look out for the signs I just mentioned.

You also have to look out for the scam artists. The people who are looking for singles – desperate and vulnerable. It may sound obvious, but never, ever send money to someone you’ve only met online. If someone claims to be from out of the country and says he or she is moving here and then suddenly needs some extra cash to visit you, don’t believe it’s your Beshert who happens to live thousands of miles and only $1300 away. It’s not. Your bank account will thank you later.

Don’t give up too much personal information either as you can set yourself up for identity theft. If you’ve only met online, then you really don’t know who the other person is on the other side – it could be anybody, remember that – which is why I have always recommended meeting right away. If someone doesn’t want to meet, there’s a reason. Heed my warning and move on. Don’t give him or her a second thought because I can guarantee they are not who they say they are in some shape, way or form.

Trust your instincts online and have realistic expectations. People are going to stretch the truth and build themselves up a little bigger (or skinnier) and better, that’s expected, but if someone seems a little too perfect don’t hesitate to guard your heart and wallet.


Are You Ready?

by GemsFromJen under JBloggers,JDate,Online Dating

Dear Gems from Jen,

Someone I just met wants me to email him at an address that he gave to me. How can I do that without him knowing my email? Is this the right thing to do or should I continue writing to him through JDate?

Thank you,
Sandy

Dear Sandy,

There are ways to get around using your regular email address; however, I don’t see the purpose. If you are not comfortable corresponding through regular email then only correspond through JDate until you feel ready. There is no rule when it comes to the amount of time one should keep his/her anonymity. It really boils down to when you feel safe enough to share personal information. Until that time, stick to using JDate for all communication and don’t let anyone push you into something you are uncomfortable doing.

Signed,

Gems from Jen

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Giving Information

by GemsFromJen under JBloggers,JDate,Online Dating

Dear Gems from Jen,

How long after the initial “hi” email should one wait to divulge their real name and actual phone number?

Dear Giving Information,

I believe this question is different for every person using JDate. The first step is to feel comfortable with the person you are communicating with.  Ask yourself these questions; do I want to meet the person? What is my motivation in communicating with this person? Can I be my authentic self while communicating with this person? Once you have answered these questions, ask yourself if you believe the person on the other side of the email is being truthful?  Do you feel safe thus far in the process? If you are sincerely interested in getting to know the person better and meeting in the real world then give your name and phone number. I hope this helps!

Signed,

Gems from Jen