Stuck in a Rut

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

Dear Tamar,

So I’ve been on here for a long time and I’ve had some prospects, but nothing really has ever gone past talking online or texting. I feel like I’m stuck. What can I do to get out of this rut and go on an actual JDate?

Dear Stuck in a Rut,

Great question about a topic that I’m sure many people are going through, have gone through or will go through at some point in their dating lives. It sucks, plain and simple. But, there is a way to kick-start your JDate experience and get out of the rut. As I’ve mentioned before, it’s time for you to do a JDate makeover: new screen name, new photos, new paragraphs, newly thought-out preferences, etc. Delete old messages and Hot Lists. As you do so, your mentality and attitude will change along with the look of your new profile. I would even suggest hiding your profile as you make such changes since it may take more than one night online to get it right. You need to unveil your new JDate profile only when it’s ready and make a virtual grand entrance. Once you’re back out there, start being more active, use the tools to your advantage and try to take the new prospects directly to the phone to make plans rather than chatting online or texting. Good luck!