Thanksgiving and Thanksgetting

by Aaron under JFacts,Judaism,News

This year marks an extraordinary occurrence that many people outside of this JDate blog will likely be talking about to an annoying degree this week: the fascinating meeting of Thanksgiving and Chanukah for the first and last time in many of our lives (though I’m feeling confident about being here for Chanukah closing out Thanksgiving 2070). It’s an obvious subject for me to talk about as my blogs are posted on Thursdays, and Thanksgiving is on a Thursday this and every other year.

However, I don’t tend to enjoy the obvious topics, so you’re not about to read why you should be thankful for everything. Instead, I would like to explain a bit about why Chanukah and Thanksgiving go great together, and why Chanukah should remind us not to be complacent.

For the uninitiated, Chanukah is about a small amount of something going a long way, particularly a small amount of oil burning for eight days (though really, the miracle was the victory of the Maccabees). Making a lot of nothing is the key point of the holiday, and it emphasizes how to make the best of any situation. Fittingly, Thanksgiving is a holiday about being thankful for what we have and being proud of that.

Similarly, I was discussing prayer with one of the rabbis I regularly study with a few weeks back, and we went over what Jewish prayer has to consist of. It has to contain three things: praising, thanking, and requesting. We have to be grateful for all around us, even if it’s not the specific things we’ve asked for. We also thank G-d for anything we’ve gotten that we’ve wanted. And lastly, we ask for more again. The idea of wanting more always seems like such a taboo thing on Thanksgiving, we should be lucky we have what we have. But lucky for us, this year is also Chanukah, and so you can thank and praise, but don’t forget to want some more, too. Next year won’t have Chanukah and Thanksgiving meet again, but you can still ask for it to be an even better time than this year.

And of course, I wish everyone reading this a happy Chanukah and Thanksgiving, and hope you’re here with me for all the blogs ahead. Thanks for reading!

I’m Thankful for… (singles version)

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

Coming up on Thanksgiving week it’s easy, as a singleton, to focus on what you don’t have rather than what you do have. Okay so you don’t have a home with a spouse and kids to host Turkey Day at, but you can be thankful for the invitations you received from loved ones (and it’s always nice when you can go home to your parents to celebrate). You may not have a date to take with to that dinner, but you should be thankful you have family and friends who are very happy to see you and to spend time with you (and may have new prospects to introduce you to after they hear about all your new endeavors). And when you end up with a fridge full of leftovers, don’t think about how you’re going to eat it all alone before it spoils but be thankful that you you don’t have to cook for a few days (and maybe make some awesome turkey sandwiches to take with to the office to share).


I’m Thankful For…

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships

I’m thankful for my amazing husband and our spectacular child. I’m thankful we have jobs, a roof over our head and food in our stomachs. I’m thankful for our health and happiness.

I’m also thankful that four years ago when I was husband-less and child-less, I still found things to be thankful for on Thanksgiving. If you’re single this year, make sure to take some time for introspection and appreciate what you do have rather than harp on the things you don’t have (i.e. a spouse). It could be your job, great friends, a nice relationship with your parents and siblings, a new car, your health and well-being, whatever. Not only should you make a list of those things, but you should write it down and read it whenever you get too wrapped up in the dating game and forget about the things that are going great in your life. Finding your Beshert at this very moment is not the only thing that’s important. Remember that.


It’s Time To Get Creative

by RollingStone9862 under Relationships

Last night I went out with a friend to catch up since I had been traveling with the team for most of the past three weeks. We usually see each other and talk frequently so we are always up to date on each other’s lives; however, with my hectic travel schedule, and the holidays, we had a lot to catch up on. We chatted about work, our families and how we spent Thanksgiving before he inevitably asked how JDate was going.

This subject is always a natural part of our conversations since he was the one who realized early on how much I could benefit from online dating and then convinced me to sign up. Even before I answered his question about how things were going I could tell he knew what I was going to say. I explained to him how I had kept talking with women during our trips, but that it was very difficult to make plans during the short windows that I was back in town and therefore most of those conversations had not led to any dates.

Fortunately, he wasn’t going to let me off the hook that easy and was prepared to offer an idea to help alleviate my dating problem. His suggestion was that I explain to the women what my current travel situation was but that I’d still like to have a face-to- face interaction via Skype™. After hearing this, I had to give it to him that it was a good idea even if I wasn’t sure how any women would react to it. Nonetheless, I’m going to give it a shot and will report back on the results soon.

Dinner with the family – A survivalist’s guide to Thanksgiving

by jpompey under Relationships

Who doesn’t love Thanksgiving?  What better time of the year than Thanksgiving to prove to the rest of the world why we are the most obese country in the nation!  Being Jewish isn’t the only part of our culture that you should be proud of.  Put on those extra baggy pants and be proud of your glutinous over-eating country!

While Thanksgiving is one of the greatest times of the year food wise, some of us may have a hard time surviving the day with our “well-intentioned”  but “I am going to make you wish you were in this turkey’s place” families.  And if we are going to the family of our significant others for the first time, who knows what we might be getting into!

I thought I’d give everyone a few quick pointers for surviving Thanksgiving with the family!

#1 – Stay by Grandpa’s side.  Grandpa is a Thanksgiving survivalist with decades of experience.  He will know all the tricks, secrets, and tools of surviving this day.  Stay close and do not wander far off.  You may even hear some great old-timer stories in the process.

#2 – If there is anything a Jewish woman loves to hear it’s that she is a good cook.  No matter what, even if you are about to gag, even if you feel slightly poisoned, even if you are wondering whether you’d rather listen to a Justin Beiber CD than swallow that bite, I’ve got two words for you – “It’s delicious!”  No matter what, you say those two words if you wish to survive the day.

#3 – Eat everything.  If there’s one thing I know from Thanksgiving with a Jewish family it’s that I will be asked an average of 343.8 times if I tried (insert food here).  Try everything; too bad if you’re full. You will not stop being badgered until you have sampled everything.

Finally – stay out of the kitchen.  There is no wrath like the wrath of a woman whose kitchen you have just made a mess.  Stay clear and be careful.

And ladies, please feel free to provide us guys with any additional pointers.  We only want to survive!

Thanksgiving; Oy Vey

by GemsFromJen under Date Night,JBloggers

After a long three-day week, Thanksgiving was finally upon us. I was truly looking forward to good food, family and friends. I began Thanksgiving Day preparing the goodies I was bringing to my parents’ and catching up on emails. It wasn’t long after I arrived at my parents’ home that I was bombarded with the questions; “No date this year?  Are we ever going to have grandchildren by our first born? Do you enjoy being alone? You get my drift, right?”

After avoiding the questions and trying to quiet my irritation due to the typical line of questioning, it happened! My cousin who was supposed to bring a date to dinner showed up alone. Don’t get me wrong I felt bad for the guy.  His date stood him up and he really did look defeated. But, for the first time in a VERY long time the focus wasn’t on me. He was bombarded with the questions. I couldn’t help but grin to myself. I got to eat Thanksgiving dinner without having to defend my singleness. It was a nice change of pace. A bit evil of me, but such a relief!


To be Grateful for

by SWEETADVENTURE8 under JBloggers,Single Life

Another year passes with the start of the holiday season.  Nothing is better than the holiday spirit in NYC! Sure, did I think I’d be celebrating with my apparently LOST spouse and kids, hell yeah, but such is life and fate with its mysterious twists and turns. Fortunately, I’ll be spending it with my wonderful family, which always involves much laughter, thankfully some catering, and a great celebration with friends and family. During what has been an extraordinarily difficult time for many people this year, I am grateful for all my blessings and hope much joy, peace and easier times ahead for those affected by 2009.

Happy Thanksgiving!