Dazed and Confused

by Tamar Caspi under Date Night,Single Life

Meeting someone whom you click with is the most thrilling and exciting feeling. Finally, right!?

Like many people, you have probably gone on so many dates, and have been disappointed so many times, that you are elated when the conversation, commonalities, and chemistry are all there! (The 3 Cs!) So elated, in fact, that you are in a daze. Dazed because information about your new match that you normally would see as a turn-off or a game-ender are things you may now be making excuses for… and may even be willing to accept. Confused because you know better, yet you can’t help yourself; you’re smitten.

Nothing anyone will say will make you see the situation differently. Everyone has this experience in the game of love. Don’t apologize for happily dating — just try not to be blinded by lust.

Make Your Own Momentum

by Tamar Caspi under Date Night,Online Dating,Relationships,Single Life

After a few dates where you and your match have several great conversations, and discover tons of commonalities, you may get to a point where you don’t know if the person sitting across from you is just a super-cool person you happen to jive with, or someone who could become your next great love. As much as you may want to jump to an answer, there’s really only one way to find out!

The only way for you to know if you could have a future with this amazing person is to continue dating them. It’s through dating that you create momentum and take the time to explore your chemistry. You can’t expect the three C’s (conversation, commonality & chemistry) to be instantaneous and simultaneous; it takes work to get all three in sync! If two of the three C’s are already there, then keep up the momentum by planning dates closer together so that you can see if the third C develops.

Only then will you know what becomes of this new relationship; and whether you just become good friends, or you find your perfect match, you’ll probably have a lot of fun along the way.