Dating After Disaster

by Tamar Caspi under Relationships,Single Life

Something tragic happens to you and the entire Jewish community knows about it, so how do you date after personal disaster? Tom Selleck’s character on “Friends” perfected the sympathetic head tilt “how are you?” when he was poking fun at how people were handling him with kid gloves following his divorce. The gossip mill is busy, and you’re the topic: divorce, death, illness, rejection, whatever. But you’re still single and you still want to meet your Beshert, so how do you rise above it?

You don’t owe anyone details, but don’t shy away from the fact of the matter either. Be prepared to address it and do so calmly, gently, and succinctly. If you don’t want to be a victim, then don’t feed into it. Let your dates know that there’s so much more to you than whatever the tragedy was you experienced.  The Jewish community is great about coming together and supporting their befallen – and you should allow them to help you until you heal – but when you’re ready to move on, let people know. Don’t make people feel uncomfortable for showing concern, accept it and change the subject.

Drama does not define you. But make sure you are truly healed from whatever it is before even attempt to date seriously.


A fallen hero on a day of tragedy

by JDateAdministrator under News

In the wake of the June 10, 2009 fatal shooting at the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, D.C., the face of a hero has emerged– a man who lost his life while protecting others — 39-year-old Stephen Tyrone Johns. Johns, a security guard at the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum, was murdered after opening the museum door for James W. Von Brunn who immediately opened fire in the museum’s entry hall. Johns had little time to react and, by the time he drew his .38 caliber revolver, was hit by a rifle shot in the torso. In reaction, the remaining security guards immediately shot Von Brunn, who was critically wounded. Von Brunn has been charged with murder and may also face hate crime charges.

Stephen Tyrone Johns was known amongst friends as a “big guy with a big heart” and a man that “would do anything for the visitors that came to the museum.” A lifelong Washington Redskins fan, his colleagues would frequently have friendly arguments with him about the Redskins’ archrivals, the Dallas Cowboys. According to friends, Johns had recently remarried and had a young son. Stephen Tyrone Johns made the ultimate sacrifice to save the lives of others and his deed and memory will live on forever.