“JDate? Yeah, no one’s on that.” “I’ve tried it, but there’s no one on there.”
Have you ever heard someone say this before? I know I have. Heck, I’ve probably even said it before. But you know what? Unless you live in Antarctica, there ARE people on there. In fact, in preparation for this article, I searched in several different cities to find one with “literally no one on there,” and it was tough. Shout out to the JDaters in Anchorage, Alaska; Cheyenne, Wyoming; and Bozeman, Montana!
I admit that for folks in these kinds of cities, local dating may present some challenges. And as someone even in a mid-sized Midwestern city, I can attest that sometimes the options feel… limited. But, there usually aren’t zero options. It can be quite discouraging to scroll through the “same old faces” and not see anyone who interests you. I get it. And I totally understand why you might ignore the outdated profiles that have been cycling through your matches since the Bush administration. If you’ve used JDate for a little while, unfortunately it’s not hard for other “long termers” to become invisible! But I encourage you to take a second look. It’s possible that someone’s cover photo is unflattering, yet their essay reveals a more telling portrait of who he really is. Or maybe you exchanged a few messages with someone a couple years back, but now you’re curious if she still might be interested. Regardless of why you may have skipped over or subconsciously ignored certain profiles, remember – we are all on the same site presumably looking for the same thing. Give people a chance – there is no obligation to buy!
Conversely, if you haven’t updated your photos or essays in a long time, or if you’ve changed something about yourself, it’s time to update your profile. I know my eye goes straight to those little “updated” tags – it’s like a new and improved symbol. A couple times I’ve even wondered who a new cute guy is only to realize that he’s the same person I had previously overlooked – just with an updated photo.
Your online presence is like your house or car – it requires a little bit of regular maintenance to keep it working effectively. So unless you live in the Arctic Circle or a similarly populated place, it’s unlikely that there’s no one on JDate – just maybe no one who takes the time to regularly update and enhance their profile! So mark your calendars: change your oil every 3,000 miles and update your profile and/or photo to keep everything in good working order.
under Date Night
Did you know that you are the CEO of your own love life? This means you get to make decisions, choose how and when to take action, and hire and fire people as you see fit. This also means that sometimes, if sales are low, it might be time to generate new business. So in the business of love, how do you go about finding new clients to interview? Or if you’ve been in business a long time, what’s the best way to keep your brand relevant? Ok, enough with the metaphor – what do you do if you’re in a rut and feel like you have already gone out with (or are related to) everyone on JDate?
Do not give up hope! It’s just time to employ some new marketing techniques. Read on for ideas.
- Direct Mail — Or, as I call it, Flirt Bombing. This technique uses very low effort, but has a potentially high reach. What’s involved? It’s easy — see who is online or who has logged on recently and check out profiles that catch your eye. Then send a quick Flirt to let them know you are interested! While I ordinarily recommend sending tailored messages to more targeted profiles, Flirt Bombing is one way to reinvigorate your JDate action.
- Change Your Profile — Update your pictures or add something new to the “About Me” section – anything to earn the little “updated” button. People like new things — this is why stores and restaurants feature new or seasonal products. That “updated” button is like bait — it attracts attention, so remember to update your info from time to time.
- Change Your Search Parameters — Do what you need to do to reach your target audience. Just like it’s probably not a smart business decision for the advertisers of the Jitterbug cell phone to buy commercial air time during the MTV music awards, it’s probably not the best decision for a 55-year-old guy to be advertising to the under-30 circuit. At the same time, you don’t want to narrow your parameters so that your results decrease. My point is that it might help to tinker with all search options — age, distance, religiosity, etc. — so they yield new matches who are best for you.
- View Lots of Profiles — This is another passive form of bait. If I see that someone viewed me, there is a good chance that I will click on his profile. So generate more traffic by viewing more profiles. You should at least get some new visitors to stop by your profile.
And one marketing technique not to use: As much as I love a good coupon, I do not recommend using it as a strategy to drum up JDate business. A 2-for-1 is great for dinner, but terrible if you advertise this as your reasoning for asking someone out on a date. Similarly, advertising that your first date is free doesn’t really come across very well either. You might pick up some thrifty folks, but this may not necessarily be your target audience.
Anyway, try some of the aforementioned tips and you’ll be back in business in no time. And if not, well, maybe your bankruptcy attorney is cute and single!
I’ve had a profile up on JDate for over a year. In that time, I have not changed my photos or refreshed my profile. That’s not good at all. Who we are and how we look changes quicker than we think — and it’s best to have our profiles match who we are right now.
- Do: Post photos that were taken in the last 6-9 months. Ones that are clear and, if possible, of just you. It can be hard for a person to understand who you are — and it can get unnecessarily confusing — if you post pictures with a bunch of people in them.
- Don’t: Post just one photo. Try to post between 3-5. If you don’t have any recent photos – take some on your computer or ask a friend to take a photo of you. This will enhance your profile and give it a fresh look.
Read more Jen Glantz: www.thethingsilearnedfrom.com.