Making Contact

by Tamar Caspi under JBloggers,JDate,Online Dating

Minutes after creating a JDate profile you’ll probably start getting a lot of views right off the bat. Being fresh meat on the JDate market means you’re feeling pretty hot right about now, but how do you convert the views into dates? And what do you do when someone else’s profile catches your eye?

First, use the JDate tools to your advantage. When the “views”, “flirts” and “clicks” are used and reciprocated, you know the other person is interested… now it’s time to make a move and send a message. But wait… I’m an old fashioned type of gal and I believe if the guy is interested he’ll make the move, just as if we were in a bar. So the women can send flirts to their hearts desire, but let the guy make the first move. So guys (or gals who don’t want to sit around waiting,after all, it is a free world), when you write your message make sure it is not about you! We can learn enough about you by reading your profile. The message should be about why you like the other person, what caught your eye and what you have in common. Make the message specific to the person you’re writing to and add a compliment or two for good measure. The message should be short and sweet, but at least three lines. And do not ever, and I mean never, copy and paste a generic e-mail, it’s always obvious!

If you’re on the receiving end of a message, you can easily check to make sure the writer actually read your profile by looking for specifics. If you think the writer is attractive, you like their profile and their message, then go ahead and write back. But don’t wait too long. You should reply within the next day or two, just as you would if the message were a phone call to return. The reply should consist of a thank you, a return compliment and your phone number. That’s it. Keep it simple.

Stood Up

by GemsFromJen under Date Night,JBloggers,Relationships

Dear Gems from Jen,

What should I do? We had three great dates and then he ran, but he  views my profile and I view his.  We do not live very far from each other, but we have nothing to bring us together other than this site. I like him, he must like me, otherwise why is he still looking at my profile? He has been married three times, I have only been once. This is nuts. What should Ido? I haven’t written to him in a while. I just see that he has looked at my profile.

Dear What to Do,

This man stood you up and ran. What is it you would like to do? Whether he looks or not, do you want to date someone who sounds as if he is afraid to make contact with you and is willing to stand you up? Make the decision that you don’t deserve to be treated in this manner and then you will have your answer on what it is to do. I have no idea why he is still looking, but he is.  It will make no difference to you once you decide that you deserve to date someone who treats you with respect and decency.  There are so many men on JDate who will treat you in the way everyone deserves to be treated; with decency and respect. Keep up the search and pay no attention to someone who does not have the courage to cancel a date.

Gems from Jen