Ahh dating…like on the back of a White Sox game ticket, fans assume the inherent risk that they may just get smashed by a flying ball. As with relationships, statistics reflect most don’t work except the “one”, so when engaging, do you tread lightly or dive in, be vulnerable and accept the risk you may get smashed? One may suggest there is no other way.. knowing the upside, that initial euphoric feeling that eventually turns into a deeper steady connection that still is so great by its own simplicity. And well, for the downside, if you have had your heart crushed (and in my opinion everyone should at least once), you know what it is like to be completely vulnerable and that is both a scary and truly amazing feeling. To know you can actually have and own those feelings. And once you’ve been there, you recognize though it may be difficult to recover, it is truly a gift that you were ever able to “feel” those feelings in the first place.
Here’s hoping that Professor Turley’s Torts 101 class rubs off, you assume the risk and go for it!
Over a year ago, fresh out of a long distance relationship with no holiday plans, I decided to give the JDate Puerto Rico trip a shot. Since I had never been to Puerto Rico and I love salsa and Latin influences, I figured how bad could lying on the beach in 80 degree weather with some MOTs be? Let’s just say I had low expectations.
Impetuously, I boarded the plane for Puerto Rico. On the first night, there was a big meet and greet dinner where a sweet, attractive, successful guy named David approached me. After several minutes of flirtatious banter, I was grinning…until he mentioned he was from California. Having just ended a bicoastal relationship, “LA David” was the last thing I was looking for – I wrote him off as “GU”– Geographically Undesirable.
The following day, as I met many new friends, I engaged in a variety of conversations, including a debate about the merits of the best baseball teams (White Sox, of course). My newest girlfriend was bewildered by my devotion to the White Sox, especially because her friend David (my flirting partner from the previous night) had expressed the same devotion and connection to the team. Based on some key elements of our conversation, she suggested David and I further get to know each other. Her reasoning? “You are RELATED.” “Huh? I think I know who my family is.” Well, apparently, I was wrong. It turns out, David was a third cousin I didn’t even know existed!
Fortunately, the upside was at that particular moment in time, I wasn’t open to long distance and didn’t even consider the possibility of David (in that light). The other upside? I met someone who has not only become a great friend, but someone special in my life that is part of my family tree.
Having 80 degree weather lying on the beaches with some salsa action Would Have Been Enough… But I was blessed and ended up meeting an amazing friend and cousin who I plan on having in my life for years to come.